Brenda's Online Marriage Prayer Request

by Brenda
(Massachusetts)

My Online Marriage Prayer Request: I don't know what to do. My husband feels like maybe he shouldn't have gotten married. We have been together for 17 yrs now. We have been married for 3 yrs 4 months. The last year and 4 months have been a rough road. We get along great. My husbands my best friend. Sept 08 my husband felt like he was lost. He was having an identity crisis or something. He felt like he needed to leave. He left me in Sept 08 and moved in with an ex-girlfriend who he has known for over 40 years. He has moved back home now but is drinking. He said he thinks he got into a relationship too soon. When I met my husband at church he was new in recovery. He was still living in a halfway house. My husband is African American and I am Caucasian. The ex-girlfriend is African American also. Me & hubby have always loved each other unconditionally and never had problems between us. It has always been outside folks that have a problem with our interracial marriage. Now it is taking a toll on my husband. He is drinking everyday and wants a divorce. He said we can get remarried. I don't want a divorce. I love my husband and he loves me. I know God hates divorce. I feel like Satan is trying so hard to break us up. My husband says he's not praying, he is going downhill. He is 54 yrs old. I don't want to divorce him but he wants to. He says he needs to find himself. He says its not the ex girlfriend because he doesn't want to be with her. She is just more of a place to go. It hurts to see my husband struggling so. He had 16 years Sobriety. He says its something between him and God and I cant help him. I know that is true. What do I do if I don't want to divorce him. Am I sinning if I give him a divorce? Please help me. My son is having emotional and mental issues. He is almost 16 yrs old. He needs my husband so much. My husband says its not about love. He says he knows he loves me and that I am probably the only one in the world who really cares about what happens to him. I try not to get emotional but I had tears in my eyes today when he told me he wanted to get divorced. I really need some advice. I want to hold on to God's promise. What God has joined together let no man put asunder. Please pray for my family.
Thank you.