Engaged Couples

I’m So Excited! My Niece is Getting Married

Posted by on Oct 19, 2016 in Engaged Couples | 0 comments

  My Niece is Getting Married From time to time, I like to share what’s going on in our world.  Although I generally use Instagram or Facebook for such posts,  I’m so over the moon excited about my niece getting married that I couldn’t resist sharing the details with you guys on our website.  I hope you don’t mind.   In case you’re wondering why I’m sooo excited about my niece getting married, here’s the story:  In February of 2008, her mom (my sister) passed away from breast cancer.  It was THE hardest time of my life as I was there at her bedside taking care of her day and night right up to the moment she transitioned.   It was extremely hard, but I’m grateful for the time that we had together.   As you can imagine, during that time we talked about many things.  One of the things that we talked about was her daughter Ashley.  Ashley was twenty years old and lacking direction as most young adults her age do.   Her biological father lived miles away in another state, and my sister was concerned about Ashley’s transition into womanhood.  She just wanted her to be okay.  She asked me on her death bed to develop a relationship with her only-daughter and to be there for her.   I promised my sister that I would.     When my sister transitioned on February 9, 2008, it took years for Ashley and me to build the kind of relationship that my sister wanted us to have.  There were times when I honestly didn’t think it was going to happen.  At one point, I decided to simply step back and not force it.   Shortly after, God stepped in and brought us together.   Isn’t it funny how God shows up when we decide to take our hands off of things?   Since that time, I’ve been extremely blessed and honored to have been there for Ashley through many of life’s challenges, including those dreaded boyfriend break-ups.  I’ve encouraged her and advised her as if she was my own daughter.   Now here she is about to get married! When I tell you that God hit it out of the park for this girl, I mean just that!  I couldn’t have chosen a better man for her and I know that my sister, her mom, feels the same way!   Thomas, Ashley’s fiance’, loves her deeply but he loves the Lord even more.   He has honored her during their courtship, set boundaries, and the two of them have remained pure, which is not the norm for young people today.   And if it couldn’t get any better, they asked Michael and I to officiate their wedding ceremony!  We also had the honor of doing their premarital counseling.   Hopefully, I’ll be able to hold it together at the wedding ceremony.  Probably not!   Anyway, going forward, future updates about Ashley’s wedding journey will be posted on Instagram.  That is, unless I feel like rambling extensively again ;).   Thanks so much for allowing me to deviate today and share something so very personal, special, and exciting!...

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Not Ready For Marriage

Posted by on Oct 21, 2015 in Engaged Couples | 3 comments

  You’re Not Ready For Marriage! I originally got this idea from Sheila Gregoire, who did something similar on her blog. She says she was inspired by the country song “Letter to Me” by Brad Paisley.  I loved the idea so much that I decided to repeat it by writing a letter to the 19-year-old me and posting it here for all of you to read.  Here it goes… Letter to Me: What I’d Say to 19-Year-Old Engaged Me Dear 19-Year-Old Wanda (A Letter to Me Regarding My First Marriage!): It is out of love that I write this letter to you.  As you read it, please hear my heart. Believe it or not, I have not only seen your future–I’ve lived it.  So I can tell you with all earnestness that the decision you’ve made to get married so young is one that you will soon regret. To your hurt and disappointment, it will end in a painful divorce, days wasted in court, depression, and years spent ridding yourself of toxic bitterness. I realize all of your older siblings have already gotten married, and so it seems that marriage should be the next step in your life too– but it’s not time yet. You’re not ready for marriage.  I mean this should be the happiest time of your life, right? But can you honestly say that it is? In the midst of planning a wedding, you’re riddled with doubt and fear.  You’re legitimately fearful that you’re making a mistake; you’ve seen the red flags. But you’re also afraid of what others will think of you if you cancel your wedding.  Sweet Wanda, Don’t be afraid.  Remember, God has not given you a spirit of fear.  Follow your heart and do what’s best for you and only you. Every poor decision that you make has the potential of delaying God’s perfect will from manifesting in your life. When you have a strong sense in your gut to do or not to do something, it is more than likely the Holy Spirit leading and guiding you.  Never ignore that.  Your obedience to God’s leading will save you from a lot of heart ache later on.  Apply this rule when ever you have decisions to make and you will not go wrong. Step back and ask yourself why you want to be married? Is it for the right reasons? Instead of trying to force something to be, take some time to discover who you are and what your divine purpose is on this earth.  You are a one-of-a-kind designer’s original.  So, cease comparing yourself to others.  Start writing your own story and stop letting others write it for you. Marriage is not a fairy-tale, and you are not a fairy.  You do not have the power to change anyone except yourself.   So stop telling yourself that your love will change him; it won’t.  He isn’t ready for marriage, and you’re not ready for marriage either. God has a wonderful plan for your life and you’ll be happy to know that it eventually will include marriage.  Be patient; God is going to send you the man of your dreams. A man who will treat you like a queen. In the mean time, the in-between time, go back to school and finish your college degree.   Trying to finish school with two small children and a pending divorce is harder than you can imagine. Come out of your shell and try new things.  Don’t be afraid to take risks.  And above all, remember that nothing worth having comes easy.   Be willing to work hard. ...

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What is Christian Marriage?

Posted by on Apr 8, 2015 in Engaged Couples | Comments Off on What is Christian Marriage?

What is Christian Marriage? It’s a Ministry   The word ministry when translated from the Greek word diakoneo means to “serve”. The best example of this is when Christ says that he came not into the world to be served, but to serve. Although you may be involved in various ministries in your local church, your spouse should be your primary ministry. You and your spouse are servants one to another. In other words, ministry starts at home. In fact, if you are serving in the church but not ministering to your spouse, you are out of order. In ministering to your husband or wife, Christ expects you to demonstrate to them his
 perfect love at all times. Yup, even if it’s not reciprocated. You see, you are the tool that God is using to help transform your mate into his perfect image; and your spouse is the tool that God is using to help transform you into his image.  This, my friend is a Godly marriage. If you don’t know how to minister to your mate, pray and ask God to show you how, He’ll tell you.   What is Christian Marriage? It’s Heart Work! It’s like having a heart transplant. God is using your mate to help form the heart of Christ inside of you. It’s sometimes uncomfortable and other times painful. Your body wants to reject the transplant but as we said earlier, you must not give in to your flesh! You must die daily to your flesh because your flesh will not voluntarily serve as unto Christ when it “feels” it’s not being reciprocated. Dying to your flesh is not easy. But think about it this way, even when you don’t deserve it Christ still loves you and takes care of you.     What is Christian Marriage? It’s Not a Contract!     Christian marriage is not a contract, but rather a covenant relationship in which a man and a woman are united together as one in order to accomplish God’s purpose for their lives. (See Genesis 2:24) What is a covenant? Smith’s Bible Dictionary defines covenant as a solemn agreement between two parties, with witnesses, where both parties agree to fulfill certain conditions and thereby receive certain advantages. Here’s the difference between a contract and a covenant. A covenant is based on trust between parties. A contract is based on distrust. A covenant is based on unlimited responsibility. A contract involves limited liability. A covenant can not be broken if new circumstances occur. A contract can be voided by mutual consent. Do you see the obvious differences between the two?   What is Christian Marriage? It’s Permanent!  As you are already aware, our modern society has distorted the seriousness of the marriage covenant.  Marriage has been reduced and diluted to justify almost anything. But none of that changes what God had in mind, his purpose for marriage. The fact that Christian marriage is a covenant relationship means: Marriage is a PERMANENT union between a husband and a wife. The VOWS of the marriage covenant must be honored by both partners. Every covenant relationship includes the saying of vows, or pledges to do or not to so something. (See Ecclesiastes 5:4-6) The husband and wife recognizes that the marriage covenant has UNITED the two of them as one. This means that there is a sharing of everything that they have, which requires trust. The marriage covenant is a lifelong COMMITMENT. Every marriage experiences difficulties but the Christian marriage covenant requires that a husband and wife always forgive and remain steadfast in their devotion to...

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Why Marriages Fail Between Christians

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Engaged Couples, Marriage Problems, Marriage Tips | Comments Off on Why Marriages Fail Between Christians

Why Marriages Fail Marriages in the Christian community are failing at an alarming rate. This is both shocking and disturbing because it means that we as Christians are not walking in the fullness of God’s plan.   Why is this happening? There are several reasons why marriages are dissolving some are small issues and others a little more serious. We will do our best to give you as many as we can. Are you ready? Reason #1 Why Marriages Fail Both partners come into the relationship with unrealistic expectations of the other person, this always creates problems in marriage. These expectations are formed by media, society, our experiences, and family up bringing. Let’s look at some of the unreasonable expectations we sometimes bring into marriage: The husband is suppose to have all the answers The wife is suppose to stay at home I can change my partner after we get married The husband should make more money than the wife Marriage means sex anytime I want it The husband is the boss If I can just get married, I’ll be happy I can be married and still live like I did when I was single Reason #2 Why Marriages Fail Many people get married with the wrong motives. In other words, they get married for the wrong reasons. Let’s look at some of them: They believe If they get married they’ll be better off financially They mistake infatuation for love They mistake lust for love Sinless sex In order to please family Because of a pregnancy Because it just seems like the next logical step Because most of my closest friends are all married   Reason #3 Why Marriages Fail The two individuals have two completely different set of values.  Another way of saying it is they’re unequally yoked. Being unequally yoked can apply to more than just religious beliefs: Different religious beliefs Different upbringings Different goals Different personal habits Different beliefs regarding marriage Different beliefs regarding raising children Different perspectives on life Different visions of the future   Reason #4 Why Marriages Fail You fail to appreciate your mates God given differences.  Instead you label your mates differences as character flaws.   My husband is too laid back My wife is too aggressive My husband is too messy My wife is too organized My husband is too analytical My wife talks too much   Reason #5 Why Marriages Fail You fail to leave and cleave as the Bible instructs in Genesis 2:20-24 The husband places his mother in the position where his wife should be The wife runs to her parents’ home when ever there’s a problem in the relationship The husband makes frequent comparisons between his mother and his wife The wife tells her mother/other relatives about their personal problems The husband seeks marital counsel from his mother/other relatives   Reason #6 Why Marriages End in Divorce You think the problem is your mate when the problem could actually be your flawed thinking. You fail to see your own faults. If my husband/wife would only __________ I would be happy If my husband/wife was more like __________ this marriage would work If my husband/wife could only see how wrong they are, we wouldn’t argue so much. If my husband/wife was more mature… If my husband/wife read the Bible more… If my husband/wife prayed more…   Perhaps the biggest reason why Christian marriages fail is because couples fail to govern their marriages according to Christian principles!...

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What is Marriage?

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Engaged Couples | Comments Off on What is Marriage?

What is Christian Marriage? Our Thoughts Then and Now   What is marriage? Is it a promise, a commitment, or a contract? We’ll reveal the purpose of marriage using Christian standards. We’ll define marriage through the eyes of God and help you understand what it really means to be married. But if you had asked either of us to define marriage about fifteen years ago, we probably would have said something like this: “The purpose of marriage is to legally join a man and a woman who love each other
and want to spend the rest of their lives together.”   Oh, we would have also said that marriage is 50/50. Guess what? It’s not!   Sadly, at that time, our definition of marriage resembled something out of Webster’s Dictionary. We were correct to a degree but not entirely.   On top of that, there was something missing from our definition. Do you know what that something was? It was God.  We both knew that God was suppose to be a part of marriage but we didn’t really know what that meant.   Ignorance about marriage is the reason why many marriages fail.   We wanted a Godly marriage but we weren’t exactly sure what that looked like or how to properly define marriage. So, we took our question to the creator of marriage, God.   When we asked God the question, “What is marriage?”   God gave us new insight concerning Christian marriage. Click here to read what God showed us about Christian marriage and gain a deeper understanding that will help you in your own marriage.   Sure, you could look to the world to define marriage for you, but it’s likely you won’t find the true meaning.   You see, the world has many ideas about marriage such as common law marriage and open marriages.  But none of those ideas agree with the heart of God.   God’s desire is that you know His heart regarding marriage. Don’t try and imitate the world or what you’ve seen on TV.   Yes, you live in this world; but you are not of this world.   Yes, you live in this world; but you are not of this world.   So, put down all of your ideas and traditional teachings and pick-up the heart of your Heavenly Father.   Only He can show you the meaning and purpose of marriage.   After all, it was all His idea.     Marriage Myths Part 1 | Marriage Myths Part 2    ...

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Wedding Bible Verses

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Engaged Couples, Marriage Scriptures | Comments Off on Wedding Bible Verses

  Wedding Bible Verses for Your Special Day… page of the most inspirational Wedding Bible Verses and Quotes. These inspirational Bible verses can be read at the opening of your ceremony by friends or incorporated into your wedding vows; the choice is yours. Read the wedding scriptures on this page with your fiance and select the scriptures that best express both of your hearts. Make it a joint decision. Wedding Bible Readings 1: Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death it’s jealousy as unyeilding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. Song of Solomon 8:6-7 Inspirational Bible Quotes 2: But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together let no man separate. Mark 10:6-9 Wedding Bible Verses 3: The man who finds a wife finds a treasure and gains favor with the Lord. Proverbs 18:22 Wedding Scriptures 4: As the church submits to Christ so must wives submit to your husbands in everything. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her. Ephesians 5:24-25 Inspirational Bible Verses 5: But Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you or turn back. I will go wherever you go and live wherever you live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. I will die where you die and will be buried there. May the LORD punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us! Ruth 1:16-17 Wedding Bible Verses 6: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Cor 13:4-8 Wedding Bible Readings 7: Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She will not hinder him but help him all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-11 Inspirational Bible Quotes 8: I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine… Song of Solomon 6:3 Wedding Bible Verses 9: Blessed are all who fear the LORD, who walk in his ways. You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your sons will be like olive shoots around your table. Thus is the man blessed who fears the LORD. May the LORD bless you fron Zion all the days of your life; may you see the prosperity of Jerusalem, and may you live to see your children’s children. Peace be upon you Israel. Psalm 128 Wedding Scriptures 10: But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up...

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