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The Husband’s Heart and His Marriage

Posted by on Feb 23, 2017 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on The Husband’s Heart and His Marriage

The Husband’s Heart and His Marriage Like the helm of a ship, the condition of a husband’s heart is what primarily determines the direction and success of his marriage. If the helm of a ship is damaged then that ship may literally be stuck in the water.  The same thing can happen in a marriage when a husband’s heart is damaged, divided, or overwhelmed by the cares of this world.   Recently I began asking God to search my heart.  It wasn’t long after I prayed that prayer before God showed me scars on my heart that had impaired my ability to build close relationships over the years.  These old wounds had been inflicted upon me, not by my wife, but by friends who had turned their backs on me decades ago when I was a teen in high school.  My high school days are obviously long behind me, but the rejection that I experienced during that vulnerable time had been embedded inside of my heart.     That’s because every experience that we have in life has the ability to either push us closer to God’s perfect will for us or pull us further away. The ability to enlighten us and bring about our deliverance or captivate us and take our hearts captive.   I’m reminded of a conversation that I had a few years ago with a young man who was exposed to pornography by his older cousin when he was just a boy.  As a result of that early experience, he was captivated and has been struggling with a pornography addiction for most of his young adult life.     As husbands who are at the helm in our marriages, it is imperative that we search our hearts, guard our hearts, and stay connected to the Father.  We must always be willing to deal with our “stuff” and pursue God with all of our hearts. Like David, we should have a heart to please God.   That doesn’t mean we have to be perfect. David was far from perfect. He slept with another man’s wife and then arranged for that man to be placed on the front line of a battlefield so that he’d be killed! David’s actions were shocking, but what’s even more shocking is that the Bible still refers to David as a man after God’s own heart.     Let David be a reminder to you that God’s expectation is not that you be a perfect husband but that you diligently seek and follow the One who is perfect. Neither your current circumstances nor your past experiences will disqualify you from being a man after God’s heart, but your unwillingness to deal with the issues in your heart can leave you and your marriage stranded in the water.   So husbands, what are the issues of your heart? How have your past and present life experiences shaped you? What things were you exposed to in your younger years that are now impacting the man and husband that you are today? Are you busy chasing success or busy chasing God? And finally, whatever your issues are, are you willing to deal with YOU?   A husband who is after God’s heart and is willing to consistently deal with his own heart, is a husband who is steering his marriage and his family in the direction of...

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Are You an Immature Husband? Here are 6 Signs

Posted by on Oct 11, 2016 in Marriage Problems, Uncategorized | 2 comments

  Are You an Immature Husband? Recently, I wrote a post called “Dealing with an Immature Husband.”  It talked about the frustration that some wives feel as a result of their husbands being immature.  If you didn’t read that post, go back and read it.   It offered encouragement as well as five things that wives can do to help their husbands and reduce their own frustration.   In that post I also promised to do a follow-up post to address husbands; this is the follow-up post.   First, I want to say that I am very much aware of the fact that some husbands are married to immature women.  However, the reason I’m focusing my attention on immature husbands is because the husband is the head of his wife.     A husband’s direction, or even his lack of direction, sets the course for his wife and family.  In other words, what a husband does or does not do, whether intentional or not, has long reaching repercussions for his household simply because he is the head.   But as I stated in the previous post, Dealing with an Immature Husband, you can’t scold or talk a person into maturing.  Furthermore, I’ve learned that immaturity is blind.  What I mean is that immature people don’t know that they’re immature.   So, I’m not going to waste time scolding husbands or telling them to  grow-up.  Not only is it a waste of time, it’s not the way of Christ.   What I’m going to do instead is point out some signs of immaturity and let husbands do a self-evaluation.   Perhaps this post can spark a conversation between the two of you.  Here we go:     1. You are easily offended – Immature husbands are often emotionally immature and insecure, which translates into them being offended easily by others.  This could take the form of a husband becoming angry when his wife points out a character flaw of his or shows him where he is in error.   2. You’re not reliable –  You’re simply not a man of your word.  Instead, you make excuses and justify why you didn’t keep your word.  As a result, your wife has a hard time trusting you to do what you say you’re going to do.  To avoid constant disappointment she tries hard not to get her hopes up.   3. Your priorities are out of order –  Instead of doing what’s necessary and beneficial, you would rather do what is most gratifying or fun.  For instance, rather than help your wife with chores, you choose to play video games. A husband with displaced priorities may also value spending time with his friends more than he does spending time with his wife and children.   5.  You are self-centered –  You are always on your mind.  The desires of your wife are secondary; it’s always about you.  You have forgotten that your wife has emotional needs and that you are supposed to love her sacrificially as Christ does the church.  When you love sacrificially, it’s about the other person not you.   6.  You don’t understand your role – You think being the head of your wife means that you’re her boss and that you don’t have to listen to her input.  While it may be true that you don’t have to listen to her, it certainly would behoove you to listen to her. The whole reason why women were created was because God knew that man needed a helper. A mature man values the opinion of his wife and understands that he...

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Featured Slider Pic 5 (Couples Getaway)

Posted by on Aug 1, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Featured Slider Pic 5 (Couples Getaway)

Featured Slider Pic 5 (Couples Getaway)

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Feature Slider Pic 4 Prayer Line

Posted by on Jul 23, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Feature Slider Pic 4 Prayer Line

Feature Slider Pic 4 Prayer Line

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Feature Slider Pic1 (AM2DF)

Posted by on Apr 10, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Feature Slider Pic1 (AM2DF)

Feature Slider Pic1 (AM2DF)

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Romantic Love Stories

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in About Team Collins, Uncategorized | 20 comments

    Do you enjoy reading romantic love stories, true love stories? How about stories that attest to the faithfulness of God?  Well if you do, this is one story I know you’re going to appreciate. This is the story of how I met my husband Michael.  It’s nothing short of a miracle. I still get goose bumps thinking about it. Get comfortable and read along as we share our private miracle. Let it be a reminder to you that God really does hear and answer prayer!       Romantic Love Stories: Wanda’s Side  A Bitter and Broken Vessel      The year was 1999, and I was a divorcee with two young boys ages eight and eleven. We were living in Baltimore, Maryland during this time.   Because of the mental anguish suffered in my first marriage, I vowed NEVER to marry again. After my divorce in 1996, I was extremely broken and bitter. My self esteem was at an all time low, and at one point depression left me 90lbs frail. But thank God for praying parents and loving family members. Slowly God began to restore my joy and self esteem. After a few years of healing, I had a desire to remarry. So I began praying earnestly for God to send me a marriage partner, a Godly man. For those of you who can’t read BTL (between the lines), “earnestly” means I was begging God day and night . Well, one day when I was in prayer I asked God if I would be married and He gave me a scripture that confirmed that yes I would remarry. The scripture was Isaiah 62:2-5. When you have time, please read it. A few months later, He woke me in the middle of the night and spoke the month of November to me. At first, I had no idea what November had to do with anything. That same night, He also gave me a vision which warned me about a young man I was involved with at that time. You know God really is a loving Father who only wants the best for us. Anyway, months went by, and November came and left. But there was no hint of a romantic story manifesting in my life. Then all of a sudden I began to feel an urgent tugging in my spirit. I felt in my spirit that I needed to move but I had no clue where I was suppose to move. At first I thought I needed to relocate from the city to the county, so I began looking at houses in the county. But the Holy Spirit, said “no, that’s not it.” After more prayer and feeling confused, I began entertaining the thought of moving to Georgia to join my parents and siblings. By the way, I had previously told my family that I would NEVER move to Georgia. I just could not understand for the life of me why they loved the place so much! I was a true city girl and Georgia was just a little too country for my liking. But oddly enough, this time when I began thinking about moving to Georgia I was filled with excitement. I knew and felt that my steps were being ordered by God. I knew in my spirit that there was something or someone waiting for me in Georgia. So, after much drama with my ex-husband who did not want me to leave the state with our children… I stepped out on faith and moved to Georgia in November of 2000. By the way, I...

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