Cheating in Marriage:
It Never "Just" Happens

In other words, it starts on the inside before it manifests on the outside. For example; it may start with you fantasizing that your spouse is someone else, feelings of being unappreciated, or deep feelings of regret about getting married.

My first marriage was unhappy and tumultuous from day one. Although I regretted getting married almost immediately, I can honestly say I had no initial thoughts of cheating.

It wasn't until after years of feeling hurt, unappreciated, and rejected that I disconnected emotionally from my then husband and hit my lowest point. I began to notice other men and became emotionally detached where my husband was concerned.

Although my affair was a shock to him, my betrayal didn't come out of no where. The seeds had been germinating on the inside of me for at least one year before it finally manifested.

And such was likely the case with your marriage. If either you or your spouse had an extra marital affair, it did not "just" happen.

You see, cheating in marriage is a symptom of already existing problems. It's the result of one or two emotionally wounded individuals that have never been healed. And just like a deep cut on one of your limbs, if left uncared for, it can cause infection to spread throughout your entire body.

This is why it is so crucial that Christ be the center of all marriages. It is also vital that spouses openly communicate and be willing to make constant adjustments in their thinking and their behavior. Those adjustments should always line up with the Word of God.

But when communication becomes volatile or unproductive, couples must then recognize the need to bring in a qualified third party.

A qualified third party is not your best friend but rather a professional counselor who can help the two of you work through your issues and communicate in a manner that is both healthy and productive.

Finally, keep in mind that because cheating in marriage does not "just" happen, it is not something that you can "just" get over. The process of healing from infidelity in marriage is extremely hard and long but achievable if both partners are willing and committed to doing the work.

If your spouse cheated on you and you are confused about what to do next, consider reading Life Lessons From: A Former Adulteress and get the Godly advice you need today.

Life Lessons From a Former Adulteress
Written by, Wanda Collins:
Someone who's literally "been there and done that!"