Our Help with Choosing the Right Person

Unfortunately, many couples build relationships on superficial foundations. They begin their search for a mate with a list of criteria such as, money, physical features, how many college degrees they have, what kind of car they drive, or even what kind of clothes they wear. One old saying suggests you can tell a lot about a man by the kind of shoes he wears.

Well we recommend you go beyond the surface when selecting your life partner. The deeper you go in the initial stages of laying the foundation, the more strength and endurance your relationship will have in the long run.

Kind of like the construction of a very tall building; before they lay the foundation, they must first dig deep in order to give the structure maximum support.

• What's Important to You?

Make a list of those things that are important to you, and then talk to your partner about them. Take our advice and don't major on the minors. In other words, you will have some differences, but too many differences on major issues could be a red flag.

• Spiritual Commitment

What is a non-believer? one who has not accepted Christ as their personal savior. It doesn't matter how much of a "good person" they are, what matters is what the Word of God says. What are some other ways you can be unequally yoked?

Well lets say you're committed to your walk with Christ but your boyfriend or girlfriend is not. They have accepted Christ as their savior but they don't have a regular church home, they don't spend time in prayer or Bible study. In other words they are saved but they don't have a personal relationship with the Lord. That is a form of being unequally yoked and can result in contention between the two of you after marriage.

• Family History

For instance, if you meet a person who is estranged from their mother or father, meaning they have a poor relationship. This could be an indication of how that person will behave towards you later. So, find out about their family ties because broken ties could be a warning.

• Stability

If your intended partner lacks stability, it is definitely something you want to deal with now. It could be just a matter of them not having a clear vision for the future, or it could be an indicator of unresolved issues from the past. Either way, you should slow down and dig a little deeper.