Christian Marriage Advice: Concerned About Sexual Compatibility

by Joy
(USA)

Question: I read and hear so much about couples Christian or otherwise that marry and then at some point are stuck dealing with an issue of unmatched sexual desire. One partner wants sex frequently and the other does not. As a single Christian woman who wants to be married, how can I prevent this from happening? First, how can I be sure the person I marry shares my high sex drive without having premarital sex? Second, once I find this person is it likely my sex drive will change if I have a child?

Answer: We understand your concerns and can see how the stories you've read and heard may have you worried. But listen, true Christian Marriage is not built on sex. You see, a marriage is only as strong as the foundation it's built upon. Once that foundation shifts, the marriage has the potential to fall.

So then, what is the solution? Because the truth is nothing in life stays the same, everything shifts and changes.

Here is the answer; Christ must be the foundation because He NEVER changes. As human beings we are going to change as time goes on and we get older; it's just a fact of life.

Is it possible your sex drive will change as you get older and have children, yes it's likely. But even if you married someone who was identical to you in the area of sex, there is no guarantee it will remain that way because you are both human and humans are always changing. Men change and women change, but the good news is Christ never changes!

As Christians the foundation of our Christianity is faith. So, if you've been praying for a mate then have faith and trust that God will send you the mate that is best for you.

Then when God sends you your mate, make sure your marriage is built on the love of God, not sex. If it's built on sex, when sex changes so will your relationship. If it's built on God's love it will stay solid regardless of the changes that life brings.



Peace and Blessings,
Mike and Wanda
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