Christian Marriage Advice: I Disagree With My Husbands Decision

by Ann
(USA)

Question: My husband made a commitment for donating a large sum of money. He did it after he promised me we would discuss it together first. Months later I found out he had made the commitment behind my back and lied about it. He now says he made a commitment to God and he is staying with it and that I am in the wrong-even if I don't agree with it. What should I do-I feel hurt and betrayed.


Answer: We understand why you may feel hurt and even betrayed but we recommend you let it go and forgive. At this point it doesn't really matter who's right and who's wrong. What is important is that you NOT allow the enemy to use this as an opportunity to cause division in your home.

Since your husband is the head, he does have the authority to make decisions in the home that he feels are best, even when you don't agree.

But proper communication is important, so we recommend the two of you sit down and come to an agreement on how such matters will be handled in the future so that there is not a repeat of the same situation. Once you come to an agreement, stick to it.

Going forward, if you don't agree with decisions your husband makes try your best not to argue, nag, or complain about it. Because if you do it will only cause him to not be open with you in the future.

Learn to take your complaints about your husband to the Lord. You see, just like Adam, your husband is accountable for the garden (marriage) God has placed him in. When he makes bad decisions God is holding him accountable, not you.

So, pray for your husband daily that God gives him wisdom, knowledge, and discernment.

Also, trust that God's word is true, that ALL things really do work together for the good of them who love the Lord. Which means even when we make poor decisions God can still use them for our good.

So let it go and trust God. More importantly, trust the God in your husband. If he is a man of God, the Holy Spirit lives in him and is there to lead and guide him. If he makes a mistake trust God to right the wrong.

Don't give the enemy place in your marriage.

We love you and will be praying God's best for your marriage.

Peace and Blessings,
Mike and Wanda
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