Christian Marriage Advice: Pornography and Erotica

by Misty
(USA)

Question: Is it wrong to use erotica or porn when both people in the marriage like and enjoy using it together?"

Answer: Yes, we believe this is wrong. Unfortunately, this is probably not the answer you want to hear but it is what we feel is the correct answer.

When it comes to sex, not everything is covered in the word of God so what you have to do is match it up with the character of God and other things God has said in His word to come to the truth.

Pornography is one of those things not discussed in the Bible but it's easy to come to a conclusion if you know what God has said about lust, adultery, and addictions.

The dangers in using pornography and erotica are many. Here are a few of the dangers:

Pornography and erotica dehumanizes men and women. It depersonalizes sex by removing it from the purpose for which it was created, treating people as sexual objects and emphasizing body parts over the person's intrinsic worth and value.

Pornography is addictive. Just like alcohol, or cocaine, pornography wraps it's self around you and eventually begins to dig deep into your mind. In fact, it is said that pornography is even more addicting than alcohol or cocaine. The word of God tells us that we should not be controlled by anything other than the Holy Spirit. Pornography draws the viewer into a destructive world of fantasy and addiction.

Looking at pornography and erotica stir up lust inside of you, lust initially directed at a person or the body parts of a person other than your spouse. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 that if we look upon a person with lust, we have committed adultery with them in our hearts.

Pornography and erotica can lead to adultery. Adultery doesn't just happen, it's a result of many factors in a marriage. If you and your husband become comfortable looking at pornography and erotica what is preventing you from looking at other men and your husband from looking at other women in his work place or at the grocery store? Lust knows no boundaries. And like wild horses, once it's out of the gate, it's extremely difficult to bring back under control.

Our rule of thumb regarding sex is that it should only involve husband and wife as God intended. That means no pictures of other people, videos of other people, threesomes, or anything else that involves another person.

Pornography and erotica open the door for Satan to attack your marriage in other areas. It's not worth the risk. Pray and ask God to show you how to add spice into your love making without pornography or erotica. Try sex toys and sex games.


Joined to Serve,
Mike and Wanda
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