Christian Marriage and Blend our families

by Jeffery Clark
(Georgetown, TX, USA)

Christian Marriage and Blend our families: My wife and i were recently married in June of this year. We are both coming from previous marriages where our former spouses left us, shattering our worlds, our dreams, our families. Both were supposed Christian marriages but that did not matter. My former wife in fact told me that God had spoken to her and said that she deserved to be Happy and she interpreted that as leaving the marriage would make her happy. So you see my present wife and I and our kids have gone through a lot and the Lord brought us together, no doubt. My wife has two kids a freshman in high school (girl) and a 5th grader (boy). I have two adopted girls a second grader and kindergartner. My girls visit every Thursday evening and are with us every other weekend and some extended times during the holidays and summer. My wife's kids are with us most of the time. We sold both of our homes and recently moved into a larger home that is 'ours'. My second grade daughter has extreme ADHD and is medicated. She has impulse control issues and socially most people do not like her because she is very invasive. I am crying as I write this as she is a beautiful sweet spirited girl saved from an abortion so I know the Lord has great things planned for her life in spite of her way. My kindergarten daughter is easy going and gets a long with everyone. It is my current wife's kids that really do not like nor do they want much to do with my second grader. This is what is tearing me apart. My wife is nice to her but I can tell that things are very stressful when my girls are with us. I don't know what to do, I pray, I pray, I pray. We are both so busy that to talk about it with someone is difficult. I feel like I am complaining when I bring it up. I am very worried. I love my girls and miss them so, but to keep the peace it is better to keep my girls separated from my wife's kids. This is not how it is supposed to be. I feel so overwhelmed. Help. I would love to have a happy, harmonious, God filled home.