Christian Marriage Question My Husband is Living with Another Woman

by Cynthia
(TX)

Christian Marriage Question: My Husband is living with another woman. We have been married for 28 years, separated for the last year, and during this time he has started living with another woman. He said it was because I threw him out, which I did because he admitted to having an affair. This whole time he has been telling me he loves me, lets work on it, and he doesn't want a divorce. He says he doesn't know what he wants, and is only with her because he doesn't have anywhere else to go. I've asked him to come home and he says he isn't ready. He is not the same person, he can get very mean, aggressive, just plain cold, and he used to be so good to me. I never would have ever imagined him not wanting to be with me. I still love him very much and am willing to take him back and make this work, but now, he seems like he is all of a sudden wanting a divorce. I am standing firm for my marriage and cover him, us in prayer night and day. I've been praying for his salvation first, then for reconciliation; is there anything else I can do to help restore our marriage, to get him back?


Answer: Hello Cynthia. We are so sorry to hear about your situation. You wanted to know if there was anything else you could do? Well honestly, you seem to be doing the right things, for the most part. The hardest thing to accept is that we have limited control over most things in our lives. One of the biggest things that we have no control over is the heart of another person. Only God has the power to change a person's heart. Cynthia, you should consider reading The Prodigal Spouse. You'll find additional advice and encouragement on how to survive marriage separation in there. Otherwise, continue praying for your husband and trusting God.