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Question: Christian Sex and Submission. For a long time I have been curious about submitting sexually to my wife. I know the Bible says the wife should submit to the husband. I've looked all over the net for answers. Some say it's acceptable, and some say it's not. What do you say?

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Answer: Thank you for sharing your question. Rather than telling you what "we say", we would much rather tell you what the Bible says. The Bible should be the only authority in our lives.

You are correct when you say the Bible says that wives are to submit to their husbands. This can be found in Ephesians 5:22. But Ephesians 5:21 says, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ". So, submission should be mutual out of respect for Christ who lives inside of us.

Also, in regards to sex within marriage, you'll find these words in 1 Corinthians 7:3-4:

"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."

So, Yes you should submit to your wife in the area of sex.

Blessings to You,
Mike and Wanda

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Avoidance of Intimacy
by: Albert Sledge; Author, I Don't Know Ask Her

I respect your decision to hold out until marriage before taking on the emotional consequences of a sexual relationship for I NOW believe that sex should be between married couples.

I almost understand your feelings toward sex and intimacy at this point; however, when you and your beau decided to share your gifts as man and wife-you'll quickly come to realize that your previous thoughts and feelings about sexual relations is what helped you maintain your virginity all these years-and that's a good thing.

Because of your virginity, and you current mindset about sex-I will assume that you haven't had the opportunity to experience all of Gods gifts as of date.

Once married, your perception and your feelings will change about sex(unless there are some unresolved issues unknowing to the readers of your story)and what you feel now will be replaced with an unimaginable feeling of caring and sharing.

I do ask one favor. Before, during, and after the 2 of you make love, communicate about the things that you are comfortable with and what feels good and what doesn't; remembering that communication will always enhance the intimacy of your relationship.

Christian sex and submission
by: Anonymous

I think there is something wrong here. If there is no sexual attraction one wonders whether you should get married. Being on the same wavelength spiritually is no substitute to having that chemical attraction which is essential in my view.

Guidance
by: Anonymous

I am a committed Christian woman of 21. I am a virgin and am going to be married soon. My fiance is a dedicated Christian. We have a truly compatible mission and love the idea of what living for the Lord means. We look forward to a life of Christan service in our church.

I am eager to marry and have a family and serve the Lord but I don't want all that stuff that goes with martial relations. I have very little interest in physical intimacy. I have tried to let my fiance understand how I am but it is a delicate subject.

We spend most of our time together studying and have never gone farther than kissing. I am not looking forward to my wedding night but I understand that I must submit to physical relations in order to have our child.

My fiance is very shy and reserved also. I think the whole idea of martial relations makes us both uneasy. Anticipating our marriage on a spiritual level seems to be the safest right now.

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