Dee's Christian Prayer Request for Marriage

This is my Christian prayer request for marriage: My wife shows virtually no physical affection towards me. For our 11 years of marriage, we have had sex about once every other week, but it is always grudgingly, because she's never in the mood. She does consent then because as she says, "so we can get it over with, and so you won't be mad". Also, it's not just the sex, most of the time, she doesn't even respond to intimate kisses, long hugs, etc. She's fine with the quick kiss on the lips, but if I want anything more, she pulls away after a short while.

We've talked, prayed, and of course argued about this for 11 years now, and we need help. She tells me that she wants to have those feelings for me, and that she's prayed and asked God to "give her those feelings for her husband", however, she refuses to take any kind of action towards making a change (we've talked about things like her trying to initiate sex sometimes, surprising me sometimes,etc., but she won't do it.) Not one single time has she tried to initiate. Also, she is not willing to talk to our Pastor about it, or try to get help from any one else. She just expects God to do it with no action on her part. Lately, she doesn't even want to talk about it, and gets mad whenever I bring it up.

We both admit that we have a good marriage in every other area, but our sex life needs some major help. I'm asking for prayer that God will show me what I need to do, and show us how to overcome this issue. Also, that God will heal this area of our marriage and help us to enjoy each other physically.