Emotional Infidelity - Emotional Affair

As you already know, infidelity can be sexual, financial, or emotional.

Emotional infidelity or an emotional affair is when you develop an attachment or desire for someone other than your husband or wife.

It is when you find yourself frequently thinking about another person, longing to see or speak to them, or even fantasizing about them.

And although sexual intercourse has not taken place, you have nevertheless crossed the line.

You have allowed that person to enter a part of you God intended only for your spouse.

You have allowed them into the inner courts of your heart.

L ike other forms of marital unfaitfulness, emotional infidelity usually begins with feelings of dissatisfaction at home;

feelings of being misunderstood and unappreciated lead you to believe you married the wrong person.

Not wanting a divorce, you end up simply going through the motions at home.

At this point, there is division between you and your spouse. And a door is now open for the enemy to come in.

All that's needed now is opportunity...

Here it is: one day while at work, or maybe at church, you find yourself engaged in a conversation with someone of the opposite sex.

To your surprise, the converstion is refreshing and intellectually stimulating. You find it's extremely easy to talk to this person and you appreciate the fact that they value your opinions.

Next thing you know, you begin purposely seeking the attention of this person because they make you feel good about yourself.

Before long, you're sharing intimate details of your marriage with this person and hiding this friendship from your husband or wife.

You my friend are walking in a mine field and it's only a matter time before this situation blows up.

You are dishonoring both God and your spouse.

• First, guard your thoughts. How? Well, the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 10:5 that you are to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. This simply means you must take control of your thoughts!


• Next, you must communicate to your spouse when you feel unappreciated. If there are deeper issues, seek Christian counseling.


• Set boundaries for interacting with the opposite sex.


• Divulge all opoosite sex friendships to your spouse.


• Regularly seek ways to keep your relationship fresh and exciting.