Engaged and Pregnant

Question: Engaged and Pregnant. I just found out I am pregnant and have 5 1/2 months to go to my wedding. I do not know what to do. Should we call it off and get married now. My fiance and I are both Christians and are very confused and living with a lot of regret at this point. He is wanting to wait and continue with wedding plans as normal, even though now we will have to pay for it. I am wanting to get married in the next few weeks. I still live at home with my parents and he owns his own house. He is terrified because he is not able to ad me to his insurance because open enrollment with his company is over. If we don't get married immediately I can stay on m parents insurance because I am still a student, I graduate in December. We will not live together until we are married. We are hurting, embarrassed, and disappointed. We realize what we have done is wrong. I just need to know what we should do about the wedding. He is afraid that if we get married now then we may struggle in our marriage later and I need him with me now. Please help.

Answer:

Hello:

I know you feel a sense of urgency. And I know you must be concerned about what others will think. But sweetie, you can't be concerned about that stuff. If waiting to get married makes more sense financially and otherwise, then simply wait. Marriage is never a solution to a pregnancy. So, get married when the two of you are fully prepared. Don't get married to please others or to ease your own guilt.

Also, you mentioned that the two of you now have to pay for the wedding. Well, perhaps the two of you should consider scaling down your wedding plans and putting the money that you would have spent on the wedding aside for your child's future. Makes more sense to us to invest in your future.

Finally, know that God has forgiven you. So stop beating yourself up. Relax and stop panicking. Take a deep breath and then ask God to give the two of you the wisdom you need to make the best decisions possible for yourselves, and for your unborn child. After you've prayed, trust Him and keep moving forward.


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With Christ's Love,
Mike and Wanda