Husband accused me of touching his child - I need your prayer

by Michelle
(TX)

My husband was out of a job for over a year and finally received an offer out of state. We declined the job as a couple but he came home a week later after accepting the offer and telling me he had to do this as the head of the house. The weight of being out of a job has taken it's toll on our marriage. He said the more supportive I was, the worst he felt. I have tried to look for the "mood" of the day and be what he needed but that tended to fail. It seems he is so angry at everyone and especially GOD. He thinks that he is mooching off me, but we are one. I understand his alpha male & his need to take care of and therefore I don't question him (since this would be like belittling him). So now he's in another city and he comes home on weekends for kids, family and I am the last one for the time. (sex time) I kept our daughter (step daughter 9) when he flew back, but I went to sleep. Her mom was out of town & her dad left. We went to church and she was feeling clingy. So we stopped after church to visit her sister (1/2). I was talking to my husband by phone & he told me you haven't slept all weekend go take a nap. I said no since she is in the house. However, I relented and told him so. The 9 yrs old came into our bedroom & crawled on the bed so I turned the TV on to back to the future & went to bed. I woke up to silence & she was leaving & going to her room per her explanation I was sleep. (I was probably snoring) She woke me up later for food. I went into the living room & turned on the TV to Cinderella & laid on the couch. She said please don't go back to sleep she didn't want to be by herself. I told her I was just waiting on the grease to get hot to cook. Her mom came back & picked her up. I was talking to my husband after which & told him that she was in the bed watching TV and she was snuggly. He was pissed and accursed me of possible touching her! Then he hung up! I thought he was crazy. Then he called back & asked me about the word snuggle. I told him that we did not snuggle since I was asleep she was clingy. So again he hung up. He called me back in about and hour and told me he did not like the word. So I got up and typed a step by step of what we did & who we saw. By the way we have been together for 3 1/2 years. The next morning he sent me a text that until he talked to HIS DAUGHTER he did not want me to have any contact with her or his family and did not want to talk to me. He would not be back for 2 weeks. I again tried to clear the air, but my husband can be cruel with his words and actions of detachment. So the next weekend was our wedding anniversary, he had talked to me in small dosages but on our anniversary no text, call, and my call went to voice mail. He was visiting his son. His oldest daughter has since called me and checked on me and I shared all this information with her & she is very upset at her dad. Here is the thing. He is so serious about his child security that if he thought for one second that something had happened he would be back on a plane and all plans would be changed to get to the bottom of this. But since it was me - us - it would keep! He needed something to be mad at during our anniversary so he would be justified and he used the 9 year old as a cover to be mad. Meanwhile I am hurt, sad, and tired of crying. I have sent him prayers & words of love that GOD would have us do and he text me back & asked what does that have to do with the situation. I couldn't even answer. So I didn't reach out for a day & he text me and asked me how was I? I told him missing him and sad, hurt, lonely and alone. He text me back Understood. I was going to pack my bags & be out before he returned, but in my prayers GOD has told me to teach him how to forgive. This is hard! I want to disregard but I go in the car to go to work & heard the song. "Its not over - until GOD says it over" "keep Fighting, keep praying". Then I said I hear you GOD. I think if he recommit to CHRIST he can recommit to me. I am not worried over him talking to the 9 year old since I know Satan uses anyone & everything. I am worried about my husband heart, mind, body and soul. Help us by praying for us. If you could please type encouraging words or a pray for me to read. I have them all over the house, in my car, in my purse, on my desk. But I need the living saints of GOD to be praying. Please!!!