I Feel I Made a Mistake Getting Married

by Queenie
(Kalamazoo, MI)

Question: I feel I made a mistake getting married. When I met my husband we fell in love fast. We got married quick, then he started drinking and smoking (mj) heavily. We both studied and read the Word together all the time but he has since changed.

I don't want to be like my parents and be in a loveless marriage for over 20 years. I'd rather end it right now. But I was raised to honor marriage and stick with it. But I'm ready to quit. I have told him many times that I don't like his behavior but he answers with "let me do me". I want to live for God and not deal with this am I wrong?

Answer: Hello Queenie, Thank you for visiting Christian Marriage Today. It's difficult to answer your question because there are too many unknown factors. For instance, is your husband bringing illegal drugs into the home? Do you think he's an alcoholic? Do the drugs and alcohol make him abusive? You see, a "yes" to any of those questions would change the answer we give you.

Queenie, if you and your husband belong to a church, we suggest you talk with your pastor or an elder at the church and request a meeting where your husband is present. You see, the mistake many couples make is that they keep the sin in their homes a secret. Well, sin is much like mold. If you keep it in the dark, it will grow out of control. So, if you don't have a church, find one. Then warn your husband that you are going to make an appointment to talk with the pastor or elder at church. This may be enough to get his attention. But one warning, don't make this threat if you are not willing to carry it out. Because there are so many unknowns, we believe this is the best starting place for you.



Praying for You,
Mike and Wanda