I Want My Exwife Back

by Roberto
(Austin, Texas, )

Question: My spouse and I divorced 6 years ago. Infidelity was not the cause. She re-married a month ago because she did not want to live alone the rest of her life. She didn't re-marry out of love. She still loves me and I still love her. She tried to reconcile but at the time she was seeing another person and I thought I didn't love her and so did she. Now we're in this difficult situation. Although I don't wish bad upon their marriage, if their marriage didn't work out, could we re-marry? We talk daily and always express our love for each other. We also pray and regret our divorce.

Answer: Hello Roberto, please do not be offended by what we are going to tell you. But you have crossed the line! It does not matter how you and your ex-wife feel about each other at this point. Neither does it matter what her reasons were for remarrying. She is now a MARRIED women. Furthermore, your continual contact with her is causing her to commit emotional infidelity. This is wrong and it needs to stop! And the two of you have not even considered the feelings of her husband. How selfish is that? Roberto, how would you feel if your wife were secretly talking with another man and expressing her love for him on a daily basis? You'd probably want to seriously hurt the guy!

"Although I don't wish bad upon their marriage, if their marriage didn't work out, could we re-marry? We talk daily and always express our love for each other."

You say you don't wish bad upon her marriage but with your current level of interference and expressions of love for each other, how can her marriage succeed? This is WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

Our advice is for you to begin conducting yourself like a Godly man. Demonstrate some integrity by respecting your ex-wife's marriage. Step back from her so that she can do what she vowed to do in the presence of God. Even if she doesn't agree, you must step back. You are sinning and so is she. You are interfering with a sacred covenant between a husband and wife. This is not pleasing to God by any stretch of the imagination.


We earnestly pray you will do the right thing.


In Christ,
Mike and Wanda