I Want to Leave My Husband

by Scharlene
(North LasVegas, Nevada,Clark)

Question: I Want to Leave My Husband. Sometimes you get tired of blows life throws. You try to be a good Christian wife, mother. I also try to be there though thick and thin for my other half when he's going through. Sometimes forgiveness is a hard thing when your other half is a repeat offender. My husband is a minister and still thinks about himself. His zeal for god is wavering. All he wants to do is stay out all night, smoke and misuse my kindness for weakness. I as his wife get tired of being stepped on so many times, even the pornography is much at times. I would talk to my overseer but sometimes talking does nothing. I guess you can say I'm tired. I'm also pregnant and been prophesied the baby I'm carrying is a prophet. I always go through with every pregnancy. Sometimes I feel its unfair he gets to do whatever and I'm left with the kids when he wants to do him in a negative way. Please I need someone to answer this because I can only take s much.

Answer: Scharlene, we are so sorry you have to go through this. First we want to recommend you get the book Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It teaches couples how to set healthy boundaries. We think it would be a good resource for you at this point in your life. Get it as soon as possible.

Secondly, we recommend you talk to your Pastor/Overseer and expose what your husband is doing. As a minister, the Pastor of the church should be informed of what is going on. Also, until your husband is held accountable or exposed, he will continue to do just what he is doing. So open up and talk to someone SOON!!!

Lastly, regarding leaving your husband. We don't feel comfortable telling you to do so. We say, first get to a quiet place and pray about it. Ask the Lord for his direction and allow him to lead you in the matter. But you must calm yourself down enough to be able to hear His voice.


Being a good Christian wife does NOT mean you have to be a door mat, but it does mean you should use wisdom and seek God for answers/guidance. Let Him be your guide.


One more thing Scharlene, you desperately need the support of a counselor and/or a good female friend. Pray and ask the Lord to lead you to one. If you have health insurance, you should be able to find a counselor that way. Also, you need a female friend to confide in. Someone who is spiritually mature and will keep what you say in confidence. We will be praying that God sends both.


With Christ's Love,
Mike and Wanda