In Need of Prayer for My Marriage

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In Need of Prayer for My Marriage

by Shanon
(WA)

In Need of Prayer for My Marriage: I am right now dealing with the choice of divorce or staying with my husband. He is a sex/porn addict and he acts on these perversions by responding to personal ads online for sex or going to erotic massage parlors... It hurts so bad.... I am struggling right now because I know we are under attack but I am so ready to just let Satan win and give up... I'm sick of the roller coaster of thinking everything is okay only to find out he was lying to is still doing stupid stuff behind my back... please pray for me.

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Apr 30, 2012
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Infidelity by my husband
by: Anonymous

My husband is seeing another woman behind my back. This is not the first time. However, this time he openly takes the woman out to have sex. Close friends have witnessed and told me. I tell him to leave but he doesn't, says he is free to see other women it is his choice not mine. What do I do. I have four children.

Dear Anonymous: I feel for your situation deeply, and please don't take what I'm about to say the wrong way, but your husband is correct to some degree, it is your choice. I know it may appear that you have no options, but you actually do have choices. For starters, the Bible gives you an out when it comes to adultery and that out is divorce. We never recommend divorce because of a one time offense, but when adultery becomes repetitive and the person is unrepentant, then the biblical option to divorce should be considered in our opinion. Each time you have sex with your spouse while they continue having sexual relations with others, you place yourself at risk for contracting HIV, AIDS, and other sexually transmitted diseases. The sad truth is that you can not reconcile with a person who is unrepentant. Not even Jesus can reconcile with us if we don't repent of our sins.

In fact, most of the time, if a spouse accepts this behavior and no boundaries or repercussions are ever set in place, their spouse's behavior will progressively get worse. Am I telling you to divorce your husband? No but you must take some sort of action. Like putting boundaries and repercussions in place. If he won't leave, then you leave (separate for a season). While your are separated, require him to get counseling if he still wants the marriage. His refusal or acceptance of this request will tell you whether you need to proceed with divorce or not. In the midst of all of this, you must trust God to care for you and your children.

Praying for You,
Min. Wanda
Author of, Life Lessons from a Former Adulteress

Nov 20, 2011
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You are not the only one
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to hear about this. I know what you are going through because I am going through it too. My husband is divorcing me because he wants the freedom to do whatever he wants. He is into porn and then went the next step: strip clubs, and things have just gone downhill since then with more stuff he's gotten into. He doesn't want to change and has turned his back on God and the faith we once shared. I cry a lot. And I pray a lot. I love him so much but God's love gives us freedom to choose and I can do nothing less, though it hurts terribly.

I have been devouring my Bible and claiming the many wonderful promises in it, and singing a lot, or when I cry our daughter sings to me to cheer me up. Anyhow, God bless you and I will add your situation to my prayers. :-)

Oct 03, 2011
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ALL SHALL BE WELL
by: Anonymous

I am praying for you,, dear. Remember, God says ALL SHALL BE WELL

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