Lord show us our to love each other in our Christian Marriage

by Monica
(Lithonia, Georgia)

Lord show us our to love each other in our Christian Marriage: My husband has the wrong attitude on life and love and it turns me away. He also wants to be controlling and I'm not used to that. Him being this way is causing or sex life to crumble and that in itself will cause our marriage to end.

My husband is inconsiderate. He works at night so when he gets home at 6:30 am, he gets directly in the bed. I am the one that has the kids all the time and I do everything for them. Now, let me give you a little insight, I was contributing to the bills and all my money goes towards his needs and my kids needs and the household. I was receiving unemployment until about a week ago. I get no help from him with the kids nor the housework. I have no problem with him not helping with the household cleaning but when I clean, I expect for him to NOT leave things laying around as if I am his maid. Then on the days he is off work, I still don't get a break. I still do the cooking and all the work for the kids.
I have a condition called scoliosis, which is a spinal condition that causes back pain due to the curving of my spine. When I say something about it, he just thinks that I complain too much. I have tried to get help but they just tell me that there is nothing they can do but therapy and it doesn't help. So once again, inconsiderate.
I try to talk to my husband but find it hard so I send emails or write letters. I do this because he starts yelling and saying things that are ignorant and just not true, only to hurt me because he can't take it when I point out his mistakes. He has a pride issue.

I admit that when he makes me upset, I with hold sex. I know it's wrong but I am completely turned off from sex with him because of the way he thinks and acts.

I am just looking for prayer and healing over my marriage. I am not only looking for prayer for him but me as well.