Marriage Issues - Marriage Blues

Are we suggesting you get a divorce? No, when we say quit, we are not suggesting you get a divorce. Keep reading and you'll understand what we mean shortly.

Listen, where the turbulence in your marriage is concerned, there isn't a couple on earth who hasn't experienced marriage issues, it's a normal part of married life.

We know when you're in the middle of it, it seems anything but normal.

Often times, your first instict is to bail; use your marriage issues as a reason to end your marriage.

The Truth about Marriage

But the truth about marriage is that you will NEVER be completely free of marriage problems.

Complete freedom of marriage problems is only possible when you have two perfect people in the relationship -- this of course is impossible.

So, what is the solution? Is the answer marriage counseling?

Many couples in the body of Christ have had wonderful success using this form of intervention.

But others have found marriage counselors did more harm than good.

Marriage counseling is a decision the two of you must prayerfully make together.

But where do you start in the interim? Well, for now, if you want resolution, the easiest place to start is with yourself.

You must decide that restoration is far more important to you than being right.

You must be so tired of your marriage issues that you are ready to quit -- regardless of what your spouse does.

1. Quit being Selfish

Marriage is about the needs of two people; it's not all about you. I know you have needs, dreams, and desires, but so does your spouse. Unless both of your needs are met, your marriage will be unbalanced and likely unhappy.

2. Quit Focusing on the Negative

Put your marriage issues in perspective. Your spouse is likely not a monster; otherwise, you wouldn't have gotten married. Ask yourself what it was that attracted you to them in the first place? Now begin focusing on their good qualities.

3. Quit Speaking Negative Words into the Atmosphere

That is, always complaining about what your spouse is or is not. The Bible says that the power of life and death are in the tongue. In other words, your spoken words carry a lot of weight -- so speak life!

4. Quit Thinking Negatively

Remember this, everything you see and touch in this world began as a thought in somebody's mind. So, if you are constantly thinking negatively about your marriage, than that's what's going to manifest. Instead, be transformed by the renewing of your mind. If you think about a thing long enough, soon that thing will become a reality.

5. Quit Doubting God's Ability

Is there anything to hard for God? Absolutely not! He is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. That means He knows everything, is everywhere at all times, and has all power. Surely He can handle your situation.

6. Quit Talking to Friends and Family about Your Marriage Issues

You see, when you have forgiven your spouse and moved past the situation, your friends and family will not forget so easily. They may likely begin treating your spouse differently. If you need to talk, talk to your spouse. If you need professional intervention, talk to a counselor.

7. Quit Expecting Your Spouse to be Perfect

Why do you expect more from your spouse than you do from yourself. You place such high standards on your spouse but forget that neither of you is perfect. Try applying a little grace and mercy.

8. Quit Looking Back and Begin Looking Forward

Paul said, "forgetting those things which are behind and pressing forward". Leave the past in the past where it belongs. You will never be successful at building a better future if you spend the majority of your time looking backwards.

9. Quit Rehearsing the Problem and Start Rehearsing the Solution

They say "practice makes perfect". That is to say, you will master that which you do repeatedly. It doesn't matter if the action is honorable or not; if you do it long enough you'll become a master of it. Don't become a master of complaining. Practice solutions and become the master of resolution instead.

10. Quit Taking Your Spouse for Granted

Don't belittle the positive aspects of your spouse's character. Your spouse is valuable in God's sight. If you don't recognize their value, someone else will.

11. Quit Placing Conditions on Your Love

Real love, that is, the love of God, is unconditional. God loves you through the issues of life and so you must love your spouse -- even through marriage issues.