Exposing the Top Marriage Myths

Listen, God's desire is that you know and live by the truth. He doesn't want you living by made up stories, concepts, or ideas no matter how good they sound on the surface.

So let's dig deep under the surface and get to the truth!

Marriage Myth #1: The husband is the boss of the wife.

Fact: The husband is not the boss but he is the spiritual head. As the spiritual head the husband has many huge responsibilities. For one, he has an obligation to love his wife just as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). That may sound simple, but to love as Christ loves is no easy task.

Marriage Myth #2: My Pastor and other spiritual leaders in the church don't have marriage problems.

Fact: Okay, if you watch the news, you know this is far from the truth. Your Pastor and other church leaders are just as human as you. Yes, they have different positions in the Body of Christ but that doesn't mean they're exempt from the issues of life. In fact, some church leaders have more marital problems because they find it difficult balancing ministry responsibilities and family life. So pray for your leaders as the Bible instructs us to do.

#3: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex than single people.

Fact: To say that all married people have less satisfying sex is not a fair statement. In fact, a recent national study revealed that over all, married couples are having more satisfying sex more often. Wheew!That's a relief! ;-) But the frequency in which couples have sex varies from couple to couple and depends greatly on the health of the relationship.

Even still, there's another way to look at this; single Christians should be practicing celibacy, right?

So, if we assume Christian singles are celibate, then married couples would be the ones having more sex. Didn't see that one coming did ya?

Marriage Myth#4: All you need is love to make your marriage work.

Fact: In the 1960's the Beatles wrote a song called "All You Need Is Love". But then Tina Turner came back in the 90's with a song called "What's Love Got to Do With It?" Well, both the Beatles and Tina Turner were wrong. You see, love has everything to do with it, but you'll need a lot more than just love to make your marriage work.

Believe us, there are many married couples who love each other but struggle to keep their marriages afloat because they lack other ingredients. While love is the foundation of a Christian marriage, you will need other tools like trust, communication, forgiveness, prayer, prayer, and did we say prayer?

#5: It's Biblically wrong to marry outside of your race.

Fact: In the Old Testament God specifically warns the Israelites not to allow their sons to marry foreign women. But why? If you read Deuteronomy 7:4 you will find God clearly explains His concern. God was concerned that the foreign woman would lead the Israelites away from Him and into worshiping other gods instead.

Marriage Myth#6: Every marriage will endure the dreaded "seven year itch."

Fact: There is no such thing as a "seven year itch". However, when a married couple fails to resolve existing issues those unresolved issues can build up over time and eventually explode. This emotional melt down can take the form of what many people call a "seven year itch". But this is not the norm.

In fact, the earlier years of our marriage were the most toxic. The seventh year was when God began to completely transform us as individuals and as a married couple. So don't anticipate or expect a "seven year itch". Always expect God's best!