My husband doesn't communication well

by Sophina Prestidge
(London E2 OBU)

Question: My husband doesn't communication well. My husband has problems with communicating mostly with me, and with others. This is having a detrimental effect and strain on our marriage. When we go out together as a couple people have noticed that my husband does not communicate, and will perceive me as the dominant one, which I am not.

I feel sad and lonely as I do not know how much longer I can take it. We do not even pray together as I would like us to. My husband at times feels very distant spiritually. He does not read the Bible or pray.

Thanks
Sophina


Answer: Hello Sophina. We pray you are well. We understand your frustration. However, was your husband this way before the two of you married? If so, then why is it a problem now? Is he displaying any sort of dysfunctional behavior such as not wanting to be around other people, or secluding himself in the house? If so, he may need to seek counseling.

If not, then simply allow him to be himself. It's not fair to expect him to change. He is who he is and he was likely that way when you met him. It doesn't matter what other people think or say about you being the dominant one in the relationship. If you know that's not the case, then pay it no attention. People are always going to have something to say regardless of what you do.

******Here's a side note: It is possible your husband has self esteem issues. If that's the case, you can support him by using your words to build him up daily.**********


Regarding his spiritual walk with Christ, it is not uncommon for women to be stronger in this area. Your role where this is concerned is simply to intercede for him by praying. Whatever you do, don't nag him or try to convince him to read his Bible and pray. Your efforts will have the opposite effect. Simply pray for him daily and ask the Lord to give him a hunger for the things of God. Ask the Lord to draw him into a deeper relationship with Him. You see, only God has the power to change a person's heart. So, let God do it -- in His time.

Be strong our sister and continue in prayer. Trust the Lord with all of your heart and know that He is with you. Begin to pray for your husband but at the same time ask the Lord to help YOU to be the wife that your husband needs. Ask Him to show you what to do, what to say, and how to say it. Ask him to help you to demonstrate his perfect love and patience at all times.


In Christ,
Mike and Wanda