My Husband Has Control issues and is Coming Home Late

Question: My Husband Has Control issues and is Coming Home Late. Please I need your help my husband is a d.j. on the side besides his regular job. Him and his partner schedule events that to me the atmosphere in a club that's not godly he says it's just a job. I don't like the fact that he says this. We are Christians and are members of a church. Because he is also in charge of some of these events makes the se arrangements without my consult because I do not agree to them. He comes home late some times because of these events and we argue constantly about this I feel very much disrespected. I am tired he sometimes lies and says he's going to the store and will slip away to a friend of his house does not return for hours does not pick up his cell phone when I call. I know sometimes I call him a lot when he is away but because I don't feel it's right to come home late at night past midnight once or twice a month. He also likes to play pool at his place where some of these parties are held I ask him not go and goes anyway or finds an excuse to leave the house which turns out to be a lie.

He says I am trying control him at times by not allowing him to spend some time out when most of the week he is in the house and when wants to go some where I don't want to go because the events I don't feel comfortable with attending because I have been delivered from a partying lifestyle. Please I really need some counsel I a m very much weary I try to pray for him but I feel very much discouraged.

Answer: Hello dear sister, the first thing we want to do is share this scripture with you, "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done." Phl 4:6

As difficult as it may be this scripture is exactly what you must do. You must give this situation over to God in prayer and make a decision not to be overcome with worry.

You see, your husband is not ready to receive what you have to say at this point. How do we know that? Because so far he's not been listening to you. He's lying to get out of the house and ignoring your calls. The truth is, he has made up his mind concerning what he is going to do and is choosing not to honor the concerns you have expressed.

Believe us when we tell you that constantly calling, arguing, or attempting to persuade him will do little to nothing to cause him to change. You see, the problem is one of the heart and only God has the power to change a person's heart.

We can only imagine how discouraging it must be for you at this time, but my sister you must make a decision to fight through your discouragement and intercede for your husband in prayer. Prayer really does work, and right now this must be your weapon of choice.

So, starting today, make a decision to take your eyes off of what your husband is doing and set your eyes like flint on the Lord. Do not be swayed by the storm around you. Commit to daily prayer, and Bible study, and trust God to do what you can not.


Praying for You,
Mike and Wanda

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