my husband is not interested in sex

(Freetown)

Question: My husband is not interested in sex. I have been married for the past five years. The first three years was wonderful but after that my Husband is no longer interested in sex. I have tried everything possible such as praying, fasting, looking good (you name it) but he is just not interested. I am so ashamed to discuss this with anybody and I love him so much. I am so young, I cant continue with this.

We are born again Christians
Please advise.


Answer: Sweetheart, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. In all honesty, this is probably more embarrassing for your husband. There are many reasons why your husband's sex drive could be low. The first reason is simply stress. If he has been under an enormous amount of stress at work or at home, this could definitely impact his desire for sex. Second, there's the possibility of his testosterone levels being too low. This is not uncommon for men. To find out, he would have to see a doctor. Some other possibilities are that perhaps the two of you just need to spend more time together. Or, the two of you may have unresolved marital issues from the past.

We can go on all day giving you possibilities, but the only way to find out for sure is by talking to your husband. Be sure to approach the conversation gently, as this is probably embarrassing for him. Let him know how much you miss being intimate with him. And also let him know how important intimacy is for the over all health of your marriage.

Talk to him about all of the possible reasons we've shared with you. If necessary, ask him if he would be willing to have a physical done in order to have his testosterone levels checked.

Also, seeing a qualified sexual therapist should not be ruled out.


Be prayerful, be patient, and be encouraged. We are praying for you.


In Christ,
Mike and Wanda