My Husband Left Me What Can I Say to Him?

Question: My Husband Left Me What Can I Say to Him? We have been together for 13 yrs married almost 10 yrs and we have 2 children age 10 and 6. My hubby has worked traveling for 2 yrs & this is the 1st time he has been alone. After he left for this job in Pa. and was coming back to get us in 2 wks for the summer but before that came he called me & was evil & mean & told me he wanted a divorce. It's been 2 months now and I know the devil is in this but he had cut any contact with me, even cleared our acct & mails me "child support". I found that he has a girl living with him along with her child yet he abandoned us. No legal action has been taken but me and the kids are in counseling and gotten very close to God. My mother had a terrible heart attack 2 wks ago and we almost lost her, I have lost 40 lbs, our 10 yr old has bald spots and the doctors all said these were from stress. I've tried so hard to talk to him but nothing helps and only makes it worse. What can I say to him? Everyone is jealous of us because we have never really fought, we used to talk about everything,so this is very sudden!!! I can text him or email him but that's it.... Please help!


Answer: It saddens us to hear that your husband has chosen to just walk away from his marriage and family. We can feel your hurt and your pain, so we say this to you as tenderly as possible. You asked us what you can say to your husband? The answer is nothing. There is nothing you can say to him that will convince him, change his mind, make him see the light, etc. He needs a change of heart and only God has the power to change a man's heart. So, what do you do? Shift your focus onto yourself and your kids. You say you’ve recently become close to God. That’s wonderful, but God wants you to TOTALLY trust Him and depend on Him right now. That means don't text your husband or call him unless it is absolutely necessary. Do not chase him. Take your hands completely off and allow God to do whatever He's going to do. Since your husband showed little regard for his family by clearing out the account. We also suggest you begin to protect yourself legally by consulting an attorney. Not necessarily for a divorce, but as a precautionary measure. You can't just sit back and wait for him to serve you with papers. Be prepared by getting legal advice now. If you can't afford an attorney, there are attorneys in every city that take cases pro bono (free of charge).

The most important thing at this moment is not your husband coming back home, the most important thing is the well-being of you and your children. Your kids need you to be fully present right now. They need a mom who is stable and focused on God. If you haven't been, begin to pray over your kids EVERY DAY. Speak life into their lives and stand firmly on God’s Word. Get the book The Power of a Praying Parent and begin to saturate your children in prayer.

As hard as this must be for you right now, trust that God has you in His hands and HE WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!


Finally, you need to be surrounded by Godly woman. So, if you don't have a church home, PLEASE find one. Find one that has a good youth ministry where your children can be ministered to as well.


We will be praying for you.


In Christ,
Mike and Wanda

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