My Pre Marriage Question: I Need Some Help

by Milton
(Brandon fl)

Question: My Pre Marriage Question. Hello my name is Milton I was with my fiance for three years we have a beautiful one and a half year old little girl we have been apart for two months due to money I lost my job so instead of her being homeless with our child she went back home to Missouri and I stayed in Florida we split about three months ago we had a big fight because I missed my family I said I could not do the arguing anymore she took it as me wanting to break up I could not convince her other wise I have tried to say that I am sorry but she does not want to hear it since that night I have been begging her to forgive me but she does not want to hear it she was raise in the church I was not but I do believe in the power of the lord do I give her time to think please help me.

Answer: Hello Milton, we are glad to know that you believe in the power of the Lord, however are you born again? That is, have you prayed and asked Jesus to come into your heart? If not, this is where you need to begin. Below is a prayer you can pray right now.

“Lord Jesus, I believe that you are the Son of God, that you died for my sins, and that you were buried and rose again on the third day. I am sorry for the sins I have committed against you and ask that you would forgive me of all my sins. Come into my heart and take control of my life. Take my life and make it the way you want. I confess you now as my Lord and Savior. I turn from my old ways and confess that I am a new creature in Christ. Thank you Jesus for saving me, Amen.”


Although accepting Christ as your Lord and Savior doesn’t mean your life will be problem free, it does mean you can trust in the knowledge that He will work everything out for your good. His desire is to bless you but He also desires to be first in your life. So, first we recommend you focus on the spiritual aspect of your life. If you have been neglecting your spirit man, it's time to refocus. Strengthen your relationship with Christ via prayer, and Bible study. It also wouldn't be a bad idea if you found a church and began attending.

Secondly, yes, give your girlfriend time. In fact, give her all the time that she needs. Don't chase her and stop begging her. If you have already apologized, it is up to her to now decide what she wants to do. Begin praying for her, not that she comes back or that she forgives you, but begin praying that she will draw even closer to God now. You say she was raised in the church, but how is her relationship with Christ these days? We would dare to say that she too could benefit from recommitting her life to Christ. We know you have your idea of what you'd like to see happen, but the best plan of action is to ask for God's perfect will to be done in the situation. This is not an easy prayer to pray because God's will does not always match up with our heart's desire.

Also, Milton, were the two of you living together? If so, you should repent and begin to make other arrangements until the two of you are married. You see, it is simply not reasonable to ask God to bless your relationship when you're living in sin and not abiding by what He has instructed you to do in His Word. So, again as difficult as it's going to be, take your attention off of your girlfriend and put your attention on renewing your spiritual walk with Christ. When you do that, He will be the light you need to light your pathway. Trust Him completely. Do not fear. Do not Worry. Trust in God NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! Got it? NO MATTER WHAT! He loves you and so do we.


Praying for You,
Mike and Wanda