Peace in my marriage

by Martha
(Kenya)

Peace in my marriage: My husband have been together since 2000 but officially formalized our union in Church in April 2006. Ours has been a union full of ups and downs. From physical and emotional abuse. He has been unfaithful since we met. He has extra marital affairs with more than one woman. It is like he is possessed by some spirit. He is also hooked to phonograph and sex sites. I lost my job in 2007 but God is good and I got another one a year later. However the second job does not pay well and i have to struggle. I earn 200 dollars of which I pay rent 11,000 shillings and my nanny goes with the rest. I can hardly save and do not have another source of income. My husband foots the other household bills but he abuses me and says that he does not know what I do with my money. Now this time he has said that I should to prepare school fees for our three children two are in high school and they both need about 40,000 shillings. I do not know what to do. Apart from these I am drowning in debt over 5000 dollars. I have reached the end of the road......

The issues of infidelity is killing me.....he had even put an advert in lonely column in a local daily stating that he is looking for friendship because he is in a stale marriage these things are really hurting me.