Please help me save our marriage before this divorce is final

by Karen
(Pennsylvania)

My spouse (of 13 years) filed for divorce and I was served in mid -October. I am devastated and do NOT want this divorce in any way, shape or form. I love my husband very much and believe in our marriage vows. They are sacred and I don't want to break them. We promised to "love, honor and cherish each other for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, through good times and bad, for better or worse, until death do us part". They were the most important words I've ever spoken and I want to honor them. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and in 1 Corinthians 13:7-8 we're told that "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things" and "Love never fails".

Please pray that God works in my husband, softening his heart and mind while creating an undeniable, inescapable, all-consuming desire to know, love and serve Him on a deeper level, so that he'll want to be obedient to God's will (which is for married couples to stay married)! We've been through a lot in our 13 year marriage, including infertility and the heartaches/disappointments which accompanied it. However, we've stayed together through it all and I don't want to live the rest of my life without my husband. Our shared experiences have created a bond which exists only between the two of us. I don't want to lose that or him!

Please pray that he'll soften towards me too, seeing and loving me through God's eyes. At the same time, please pray that God burdens my husband for his choice to divorce me and break our marital vows. While I don't wish pain for my spouse, if it causes him to reconsider his decision and makes him want to work on our marriage, than so be it. My husband says he's a Christian, but only God knows for sure. Please pray that he truly is or becomes one, hopefully (and prayerfully) before our marriage ends.

Please pray that my husband seeks God's will and chooses to be obedient before this divorce becomes final. Please pray that God would return and remain at the center of our individual and married lives moving forward, so that "a cord of three stands is not easily broken". Please pray that the Holy Spirit would indwell inside my husband and intercede on behalf of our marital reconciliation and restoration. Please pray that we'll once again be a praying couple, so we can shield ourselves and our marriage in God's armor. Please pray that my husband would see me through God's eyes and remember all of my good qualities, just as I've prayed that God would help me do the same where he's concerned. Please pray that we'd both will ourselves to love each other (in obedience to God), so that He'll restore the feelings of love for each other over time. Please pray for a spark to ignite into a raging fire of love, respect and desire for one another, that can't be squelched.

Please pray for healing and forgiveness on both our parts, as well as our families and friends, so peace and unity can be restored. Please pray that with God's help we can recommit to and rebuild our marriage from the ground up, making Jesus Christ the foundation, roof and support beams...so that Satan is unable to divide and conquer another marriage. Please also pray that my husband and I would reconnect on every level (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and financial) so that we can create and sustain a mutual, reciprocal partnership in our marriage that will last the test of time.

Lastly, please pray for improved communication between us, so we can have Godly conversations that edify, support and uplift, rather than attack and sling mud, which results in arguments and tears us down and apart. Please pray that we'd each choose to put each other first under God, so that we become more sacrificial and less selfish. In doing so, our needs will always be met, because he'll be considering me and I'll be considering him and we won't need to be defensive or argumentative. Please pray for increased patience, tolerance, understanding and compassion, while also increasing our concern for each others well-being. Please, please pray for our marriage to be saved before this divorce becomes final.

Thank you for your combined prayers. I believe in the power of intercessory prayer and the ability for God to perform great miracles using them. "Nothing is impossible for God"!!! Hallelujah and Amen!!!