Praying for the restoration and reconciliation of our marriage

by Greg
(Salem, OR, USA)

My wife and I have been married for 27 yrs. and 6 1/2 months ago my wife moved out indicating she needed time and space to find herself. She stated that she didn't love me anymore and had little hope that she ever would again, but that she did have some hope we might get back together at some point. I gave her the space she asked for and was careful not to push or pressure her and slowly our relationship seemed to be going in the right direction, although she didn't want to talk about us or where she was. We went out together almost weekly, talked, shared, laughed as a couple as well as together as a family numerous times (we have an older daughter and son). When I injured myself rather seriously she held me and cried, cared for me, and seemed genuinely concerned and like her heart was turning but didn't want to talk about it. Slowly she began to slip back into the guarded stance she had previously held. However, she told me on several occasions she was praying for me and seemed genuine. Suddenly within a week of going to church on Easter with my daughter and I for the 1st time in about a year and having Easter dinner together she told me that she was tired of the way things were going and wanted to get on withe her life. I asked her what that meant and she wasn't sure. When I asked her if she was thinking of divorcing me she said that she had been thinking about it. I asked her if she wanted a relationship with someone else and she said no but would like to have some guy friends to do things with. Anyway she asked me to not ask her to do things anymore and basically keep our conversations related to the kids or business, or if I had questions I could ask her. So my prayer is for God to change her heart in a miraculous way. It seems as though we are coming to a crossroads that could either lead to divorce or reconciliation. I am seeing a Christain counselor but she didn't want to come with me-said she wanted her own but has not pursued one. I am not chasing her and am committed to respecting the boundaries she has set. I'm praying for her to be set free from whatever is binding her up and healed from the wounds of her past and our past. She was abused as a child, cheated on by her 1st husband, date raped before we married, her father abandoned her and her mom when she was a child, and her and I cycled in and out of conflict for most of our 27 yrs. Please also pray for me as this is so painful and I am so lonely as I am living alone now. I have hope and confidence that God can and will reconcile us but daily seem to struggle with fear and doubt. I purchased the Prodigal Spouse over a month ago and pray the 11 things pretty much daily. I just ask for prayer for us both and for God to do a mighty work in her heart and mind that only He can do.