Privacy in Christian Marriage

by Gladys
(Florida)

Question: Should there be some privacy between married couples?

Answer: Yes, everyone needs privacy. Here's a definition of privacy from dictionary.com, "the state of being free from intrusion or disturbance." This could be time alone for prayer, meditation, or any number of things. Time to yourself is necessary sometimes. For instance, what about when you use the bathroom? Should your spouse accompany you or give you privacy? Some couples have no problem remaining in the bathroom while it's in use by their spouse. Personally, we prefer privacy in such instances. We believe every individual deserves some level of privacy at various times. (Sorry if the bathroom image was a little gross --it was the only one we could think of :-)

On the other hand, married couples should not have secrets. Secrets and privacy are two different things. You should not purposely withhold information from your spouse with the intent of being deceitful. This includes where you go, who you speak with, the money you spend, your past history, etc., etc. Basically, your life becomes an open book. So again, there should not be secrets between spouses but a little privacy in certain cases is fine.

In Christ,
Mike and Wanda

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