Reconciliation of our marriage

by Michael
(Clayton,Ca)

Reconciliation of our marriage: My wife and I have been married for 18 years and have two wonderful children. My wife has filed for divorce, saying she has matured, wants to be independent and free. She says that she loves me, but no longer is in love with me. This all began about 1 1/2 years ago, when she started going out with a "friend" of hers. Her friend is a divorced woman in her 50's. This "friend" is miserable and has seemed to latch onto my wife as she looked for someone to drag downward with her. My wife filed divorce papers in September and has progressed through the process without looking back. I have tried and tried to get her to reconsider, to work with me to save our marriage and family, to go to therapy alone and together, but she refuses to do anything to save our marriage and family. After trying for so long, I made one of the most difficult decisions ever and moved out of our family home. I did not move out because I gave up. I moved out in hopes that the time apart and space would help us both to think calmly and clearly about our relationship. In no way am I using the time apart to seek companionship from another woman. It has only been a week, but it feels like a life time. I have continued to pray nonstop. My son (13) has moved with me. He says he is very hurt and upset with his mother, that he does not want to live with her, let alone see her. This devastates me, as I feel that family unity is of the utmost importance. My daughter (15) has stayed with my wife, but is also very hurt and upset with her mother. I would like to request prayers that my wife opens her mind's eye to the truth, to her family, and to me and our marriage. That her heart softens and that we reconcile, bringing our family back together in unity, love, appreciation and understanding. Thank you for your prayers and God Bless.