Second Time Around with Infidelity

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Second Time Around with Infidelity

by Jodie
(Kenya )

I realized very early in our marriage that moral integrity was lacking in my husband. When he cheated the first time, he said it was because I was suspicious after all... he thought he'd just 'live up to my expectations'. I was a total wreck... but I forgave him, acknowledged my contribution to the affair and worked very hard to trust in spite of the experience. It has been two years of experiencing God's grace and healing... to a point where, I actually felt hope and a sense of trust again! And then... just last night, I confirmed that he has been sexually involved with someone he has only known for 1 month! And twice! He feels no remorse, no guilt. Thankfully, it doesn't hurt as badly as it did the first time. I can think. I can eat. I'm still alive! I know that God's perfect plan for us is 'til death do us part' but Oh, divorce seems like the better option right now. I don't know... indecision is my worst companion right now. Prayer leads me to forgive seventy times seven; but i do remain open to exercising the option of divorce in the case of an unfaithful spouse. The worst part of staying is the agony and pain that comes with working out the mess and rebuilding trust again.

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Mar 30, 2012
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2 time and still have some hope
by: maribel

after having the normal marriage disagreements, my husband of 7 years decided to have his co worker "sexting" friend. (he never admitted sleeping with her). I was in shock! Had no idea of his infidelity! It was very painful and the only thing that kept us going was the counseling sessions we had. it did help me understand on why some men have affairs and also on how to let go of the negative thoughts. Everything seemed to be coming along good, when again for the 2nd time in less than 5 months after the 1st affair, he was caught sexting!!! With the same woman! Here I am again fighting for my marriage, same pain still with some hope, but closer to god and more focused on god. One good thing out of this he changed his job to another city, and now he is closer to god. We are both more committed to church and we are around more christian people that we are accountable too, and pray for us. I trust in god that this hurt will only make our marriage much stronger, and now I've learned to be a praying wife. (love is a decision).

Mar 13, 2012
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INFEDILITY
by: Anonymous

I discovered last year, 2011 that my beloved husband was having multiple relationship with 2 women who work for the same organization. One of them got a job in wajir and he is trying to follow her there. these are young women almost half his age. It has been very devastating.after confronting his he does not accept or deny. I stopped trusting him and I always read a lie in whatever he is telling me. It has been very stressful and painful for me to endure what he is doing.

Nov 30, 2011
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I'm going through the same thing right now and I need your prayers too
by: Anonymous

I have also recently discovered that my husband had cheated on me countless times since last year by going to a massage parlor with extra services whenever I'm out of town. And just last month, he met a girl in Indonesia and now they are in a relationship. He told me he will end it because he still wants to choose me over this girl but I found that he is lying and is still together with her. They communicate via text messages. I don't want to divorce my husband because after all he did, I still love him. And he doesn't want to divorce me either. I don't know what to do to make them stop their "relationship" and for my husband to stop lying to me. The only thing I can do now is to pray for him to change his ways. But can my constant praying really help him change? Please pray for us. Thank you!

Nov 15, 2011
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INFIDELITY, A FAMILY KILLER
by: Anonymous

It happened to me once,only one year, three months into the marriage. I was crushed and broken and I couldn't even think, considering that I was pregnant at that time. With time, God wiped my tears, healed and restored the marriage. We're stronger than ever before.

I however learned that it is always wise to pray for our husbands, that is, even before hurting things like infidelity occurs. I will not cease praying because I know the enemy is not at rest. Remember though that even the person who engages in sexual sin is not really happy about it. Don't give up on him. I promise you my prayers.

Oct 22, 2011
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25 years later, repeated infidelity
by: Anonymous

Do you think it even possible to forgive after all these years, finding that he was entirely broken because our "hopes and dreams" for retirement were not the same....and because of that, he goes for a one-night stand with a co-worker? Also, saying it probably would have turned into a true affair, had me, his wife of 37 years, not figured it out? Would I be crazy to even consider reconciliation?

***No you wouldn't be crazy at all. However, your decision would need to be made with wisdom. In other words, the two of you need marriage counseling and new commitments to Christ. Other wise, you could end up going around in circles. Praying for you -- Min. Wanda

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