Sexual Infidelity and Forgiving Adultery

Sexual Infidelity
Forgiving Adultery

Adultery is the most common form of unfaithfulness in marriage.

It is considered to be the ultimate way in which one spouse can betray the other.

This is because sex is not merely a physical act. The Bible refers to sex as a husband and wife becoming "one flesh".

You see, when you have sex with your spouse, a powerful bond is created called a "soul tie". A soul tie is a knitting together of two souls. It involves your mind, emotions, and spirit.

Soul ties are a blessing between husbands and wives but can be destructive when formed outside of the marriage bed.

Because of this knitting together of souls, when either of you commits sexual infidelity it is a breech on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.

That's why the scars from adultery can penetrate deep.

But did you know that for Christians, adultery is not limited to sexual intercourse?

Sexual Infidelity
What is Adultery?

Jesus said that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has committed adultery in his heart. (See Matthew 5:28)

Wow! You may need to marinate on that for a minute.

But while you're marinating remember Mike and Wanda didn't say it, Jesus did.

So, if you have an issue with it take it up with Him --- if you dare.

Okay, so by God's standards you are guilty of adultery if you look at someone with lust.

This being the case; kissing, fondling, or any other act that involves one or both parties becoming sexually aroused would also be considered adultery.

But whether the act actually involves intercourse or not, infidelity is always devasting to the marriage covenant.

It is not uncommon for the ripples from unfaithfulness to be felt for years to come.

Sexual Infidelity
Forgiving Adultery

As a Chirstian, what you must remember regarding sexual infidelity is that your response must always be forgiveness.

That's right, the Word of God instructs you to forgive as Christ forgave you. God's forgiveness has neither limits nor boundaries and neither should yours.

But what if I can't forgive? you say. Well, in that case, the Bible says that you will not be forgiven of your sins. The choice is yours.

But don't expect to forgive and move on with the push of a button. It's just not that simple.

The process will be long, and painful. But remember, God's grace is sufficient.

With that being said, we must also tell you that although you are required to forgive according to God, you are not required to stay married.

That's right, the word of God says that if adultery is involved, divorce is permitted.(See Matthew 19:9)

But your decision to divorce or remain in the marriage can not be based upon the above scripture. The scripture does not say you must divorce, it merely gives you the option.

You still have an obligation to pray, listen for the voice of God, and be obedient to what God is speaking to your heart.

Can your marriage survive sexual infidelity? It absolutely can!