Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
Christian Lovemaking

In fact, making love is such an intense bonding experience that the Bible refers to it as "becoming one flesh." (Genesis 2:24)

But no matter how long you've been married, you're likely at some point to experience sexual dissatisfaction. I know we did. We were more tolerant with our sex life than we were satisfied.

What was our problem? Michael's sex drive was comparable to that of a Lamborghini and mine was more like a Volkswagon Beetle .

In other words, his sex drive was high and my sex drive was low. As you can probably imagine, this was a sore spot between us prior to finding a resolution.

While our past sex issue is common among married couples, there are other reasons why sexual intimacy in marriage can suffer. Those reasons include having unresolved marital problems, not making sex a priority, and simply becoming bored with the same old routine.

If any of these problems occur, you may find yourself stuck in what we call "The Sex After Marriage Rut." The good news is that this "rut" can inspire you to make things better. The bad news is that if you ignore it, it can become a catalyst for bigger problems. We call those bigger problems covenant killers. The reason we call them covenant killers is because they have the potential to destroy a marriage.

Covenant killers that can manifest when sexual intimacy in marriage is not healthy:

• Emotional Disconnect
• Lust
• Feelings of Resentment
• Feelings of Rejection
• Infidelity and
• Pornography

How to avoid covenant killers and keep sexual intimacy in marriage healthy...

1. Understand Your Differences

Understand that God created men and women differently where sex is concerned. Your wife is not unusual when compared to other women, and neither is your husband -- The two of you are just different.

2. Don't Be Selfish

Get out of the "It's all about me" mentality and begin to place the needs of your spouse above your own.

3. Forgive Past Sins

Resolve any lingering issues in your relationship that have not been dealt with properly.

Certainly, that's not all there is to it, but it is a good place to start. By doing these three things, you will experience a true surrendering to Christ which will lead you to that mysterious, but beautiful place of "Becoming one flesh" in Christian lovemaking.

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