Sick and Tired of My Husband's Wondering Eye

Question: Sick and Tired of My Husband's Wondering Eye! I am fed up with the fact that my husband can't stop starring at other women. He likes to wear sunglasses because he thinks I can't see where his eyes are going. There have been several times where he has been so disrespectful to check women out in front of our home, he will turn his whole body and just keep starring like he wants the opportunity of being approached. Times in the past I have tried to confront him and he says I am wrong, that he wasn't looking at anyone, just more lies, as if I am stupid or something. I have even told him that you can tell the truth. I would prefer that then to lie straight to my face. And to look is one thing but to stare is another. He makes me feel like he is just looking for something else, like he isn't satisfied, he always says that he has learned his lesson from flirting with women and getting numbers and having emotional affairs. But then when I see him continually wanting their attention it is as if I wonder if I can truly trust him. It's like if you keep putting yourself in a situation for attention you will get just that. We all know the enemy hates marriage and I try my best to be a good Christian wife, I am constantly on my knees praying, fasting and speaking life over our marriage and my husband but I am beginning to wonder how much longer can I deal with someone who seems to want someone other than me?????


Answer: Is your husband born again? We don't mean does he believe in God. We mean, has he actually had a conversion experience? Has he ever prayed and asked Christ to come into his heart? It doesn't seem as if he has. And if that is the case, then praying for his salvation is where you should start. I know that you said you've been praying. But begin to pray for his salvation. Ask the Lord to save him.

You see, your husband's problem is an issue of the heart. And only God has the power to change a man's heart.


So again, if you haven't been praying for his salvation on a regular basis, we suggest you start doing so immediately. Also, if the two of you are not active members of a church, we highly suggest you begin to search for one. Once you find one, become involved in their Bible studies and married couple's ministry.

Support from Godly people would be good for you as individuals and good for your marriage.


Finally, if you haven't already considered it, marriage counseling should be a consideration. Perhaps a counselor/psychologist can get to the root of what your husband's problem is. If he doesn't want to go for counseling, we recommend you seek out individual counseling for yourself. We think it would be beneficial for you and your self-esteem. Hopefully, we've said something that helps.

We love you and will be praying for your situation. Thank you so much for visiting our site.


With Christ's Love,
Mike and Wanda