Still Trying to Survive the Affair

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Still Trying to Survive the Affair

by Anonymous
(Arizona)

Still Trying to Survive the Affair: My story is similar to the story told on the video. My wife had an affair with a co-worker. Apparently, this had been going on for months right under my nose and I didn't even have a clue. A friend suggested the book by Dave Cardner, so I bought it a few months ago. The book has been EXTREMELY helpful. But we still have a long way to go. One of problems now is that she is still working with this guy. So, I can't say that we've completely survived infidelity. We're still trying to survive.

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Sep 28, 2011
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Same situation for me
by: Dan

My wife also had an emotional affair with a boss co-worker and I strongly suspect there was physical encounters or I may have stopped her from making the physical encounters. This is something that she probably will never tell the truth about. She did admit to the emotional stuff. Work place affairs have become all to common these days especially when they spend long hours working together and go to overnight conferences and seminars together. Only the two individuals and God knows what goes on behind closed hotel room doors at 3 am. She refuses to quit her job or change jobs and wants me to just get over it without fixing the trust issues. i pray everyday that God will speak to her heart. She was the one that made me go to church and encourage me to give my life to Christ but now the shoe seems to be on the other foot!

Apr 05, 2011
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I can sympathize........
by: Jennifer

........your story sounds a lot like mine. My husband cheated with a female coworker and continued to work with her after I found out. He is in the Navy and, unfortunately, couldn't just switch jobs. He was up for orders, but not for almost a year. So, for that year, I had to deal with knowing that they were still on the same ship. They didn't work in the same office, but close enough. He assured me that they had ended things and didn't even speak, but after all of his lies, how was I to believe that? I drove myself crazy with worry, often driving to the base and sitting, watching, to see if I could see them.

I just bought the book Torn Asunder on Amazon and can't wait for it to arrive. Have you read either "After The Affair" or "Surviving Infidelity"? Both have been extremely helpful for me.

It has been 2 years and some days I feel like it was just yesterday. :(

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