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by Callie
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The Good Wife - A Cheerleader

Me a cheerleader????

So today I was recalling something I once heard in regards to a wife and her role in a marriage. I once heard someone say that when we wore our beautiful white wedding gowns that really we were wearing a fancy cheer-leading uniform. At first this idea seemed silly to me, but after thinking about it I realized that is exactly what we were wearing.

Our husbands desire respect and approval from us so desperately and we need to be behind them cheering them on and letting them know we think they are awesome. Imagine what it would do to our husbands self esteem if we were to become an encourager, a motivator, and a cheerleader on a daily basis. Imagine what it would do to our husbands if we were the opposite. If we were naggers, and complainers. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 27:15 that "A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet", I don't know about you but I hate the sound of a leaky faucet. The problem with not being a cheerleader and encourager for our husbands is that they need praise and they crave knowing they are great at who they are. Many men become workaholics and a prime reason for this is because they get praise and recognition from their bosses or fellow peers at work. Ladies, hear my heart, the last thing we want is for our husbands to be looking for this type of attention from anyone but us. The good wife is a cheerleader for her husband, if not for the sake of her marriage then because God commands her to do so. We are commanded by God as Christians to "Encourage each other daily" (Heb. 3:13), this alone is reason enough to put on our cheer gear.

I confess that throughout the course of my marriage I have not been wearing my cheer-leading skirt or waving my pom poms around as often as I should have. Pondering on this topic has left me convicted and has shown me an area in my life that I need to work on.
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So ladies, what are your thoughts on being your husband's cheerleader? Have you been cheering him on or booing from the sidelines? Come on, it's just us girls. If you must confess, this is the place to do it.

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I forgot my purpose too!
by: Anonymous

Yeah, that's me too, here recently. I can be a great cheerleader at times and then I can have a slump and go into complain mode without noticing it. Thanks for the reminder, I like building my husband up. Nothing like some good old scripture to shape me right up. Correction is good for the soul. I repent of my sin and commit to focus on building my house instead of tearing it down. shame on me. Thank God I'm forgiven! I Go and sin No More!

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I am not so good at this
by: Anonymous

I haven't been a cheerleader all the time but it's like he doesn't see the good I do. This is his 2nd marriage and his first was so bad that he says I am not going through that again you can leave, the door swings both ways before I will ever be miserable again. This makes me feel like either way i don't matter to him. He can live without me...but I think more than not he can live without the hateful part of me. I need prayer! I can't be perfect all the time but I guess if I look at the truth i start 99% of our 3 times a week fights. I don't know I feel like I am walking on egg shells.

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Hoping it's not too late...
by: Rosario

It took my husband to tell me that he was "out of love" with me to make a change. Now I'm hoping its not too late. I regret so much being the annoying, selfish, bratty "cheerleader". I should've been more compassionate, loving, encouraging...etc..Please Lord, don't let it be too late for us!

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Light bulb moment
by: Need to learn submission

My husband and I are gonna be married twenty three years in Aug. We have only two children & they will both be in college this Fall.

I admit I have not been a submissive wife to my husband for the past two years. Reading your article has given me a "light bulb" moment. I need to learn how to be the "cheerleader" instead of the "dripping faucet" :)

I do sound kind of funny "booing" him on the sideline if we're on the same team! ;)

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I needed to try harder
by: Wants to be a Better Wife

I just finished reading this article, I only wish I'd found it a year ago, before my husband and I separated. We are looking for a good Christian counselor to hopefully help us put the pieces of our marriage back together. I wish someone had sat me down and told me how my behavior was hurting my marriage. I realize now that I never really supported and encouraged my husband while we were together, I resented the fact that it was expected of me to carry out the duties of a wife. I know it sounds ridiculous but I became a difficult person to live with because of the extra responsibility. I want to be more patient and supportive.

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Cheerleader
by: Wifey

I agree with wives needing to be a cheerleader as well. What about those husbands who have jobs where their boss is not a cheerleader? We as wives have to let them know that their daily struggle and hard-work is appreciated by their family. My husband works two jobs--sometimes both on full time hours. He has a very strong work ethic and I'm glad that he is demonstrating that for our children (his step children). I LOVE my husband dearly and thank God for him everyday!!!!

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Help him to meet God's Purpose in his Life!!
by: ME

You know I had forgotten to be my husband's cheerleader!! And it's not easy!! Staying focus in the word and what God want of me makes it easier. We as women can turn our husband's behavior around, but the pressure is on us to keep our homes in harmony!!!

And not NAG or Complain about STUFF. It's not what we say,but how we say it!!!
Praise GOD!!

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Help meet
by: Samantha

I agree. I think about Adam in the Garden having an assignment from God. God then made Adam a helpmeet suitable for him. Helpmeet = Cheerleader.

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The Good Wife
by: MissWynne

This is so true. I have found that the more love & encouragement that I give my husband, I get the same or more in return. This is great advice & we have to remember also that our Husbands want & need the same kind of love and affection that we do.

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Balancing?
by: Anonymous

Thank you for this good reminder.
Though I was a cheer leader to my husband at the beginning but along the way I have change my role to give more and more comments which lead to advise or nagging most of the times.

How to balance advise which my husband need and continue to let him know I am alyways behind him?

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YES!
by: Anonymous

What wives everywhere need to read. This was great. Thank you for reminding me what I use to know.

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