uncomfortable with husband's sexual requests

Question: Uncomfortable with husband's sexual requests. My husband wants me to do things sexually with him that I have tried with him, but I am no longer comfortable doing these things and I have told him that I do not want to do them anymore. My husband still pushes the issue and this situation is creating a lot of problems in our marriage. My question is as a married woman is it okay for me not to do something sexually or should I do what my husband wants even though I have issues with what he wants me to do? Can you also provide Scriptural basis for your answer?

Answer: Hello, thank you so much for visiting our website. The big question is why do you have issues with it? If you agreed to do this from the onset, it is not reasonable to now refuse, UNLESS you can say yes to the following questions:

1. Is what he's asking you to do harming you?
2. Is what he's asking you to do causing you physical discomfort?
3. Does it make you feel dirty or shameful?
4. Does it violate the Word of God?

If you say yes to the above questions, then your husband should not try and persuade you. That would be selfish on his part. His job is to love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). That means he places your needs above his own.

However, if you say no to the above questions, then you should seek to please your husband. Compromise with him and do this for him occasionally. Sex in marriage is not a one way street, it's for the enjoyment of both spouses.

Unmet sexual needs is oftentimes an open door for adultery.


Here is another scripture you may find helpful...


"The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5


Blessings,
Mike and Wanda


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