Unsure about Getting Married

Question: Unsure about Getting Married. I am so unsure if I should marry my fiance P or not. We met 4 years ago through our sport - which we still do together. We had a long distance relationship until a couple of months ago when we moved in together after P moved cities.

The long distance relationship was really good. We saw each other on weekends and spent most of our time at my home with each other.
Now that we have moved in together things are far more complicated.

We don't seem to see eye to eye regarding the following:

- we have different ideas on how to spend our free time - I want to explore our new city and make new friends but P wants to stay home.

- I have a keen interest in life and developing my skills and knowledge but P wants to stay home with me.

- P is not supportive or very interested in my daughter's life but says he does love her.

- P is not earning enough to support us and we are splitting all bills.

- P finds it hard to talk about issues and work through problems.

My confusion stems from this:

- we love each other but seem to be fighting all the time.

- through prayer God has told me that I must marry him... I know that I must not doubt but I do. I am not sure what to do. Is this a test of my faith? Do I marry him to learn to be patient, accepting and understanding. I am confused and unsure as how to move proceed. I pray about it every day but don't get any guidance. HELP.

Answer: Hello, thank you for visiting our website. First we want to tell you that it is unlikely that God is telling you that you "MUST" marry this person. God has given all of us free will. That means it's up to us to choose what to do. Secondly, why would God tell you that you "MUST" marry P, but not tell you that you "MUST" stop fornicating and living together? Again, it's not likely you were hearing from God.

You say you've been praying but not getting any guidance. Well, God speaks in many ways. One of the ways He speaks to us is through circumstances. That's right, sometimes it's as simple as looking at the circumstances. In your case, you have many concerns about P. You feel in your gut that marrying him would be a mistake. Well, considering the circumstances, we would say don't proceed. But instead follow your gut.

Also, we must tell you that living together is not acceptable. If you want God's blessings upon your life and marriage, then you must follow Godly principles. Living together and fornicating is not pleasing to God. Perhaps this is the reason why your relationship is going sour. After all, you did say things got bad after the two of you moved in together. Begin to focus your attention on Christ. Rededicate your lives to Him. And follow his principles in all that you do.


Again, thanks for visiting our site. May the Lord bless you.



With Christ's Love,
Mike and Wanda