Very Lonely Wife

by Jean
(MO)

Question: My husband does not like to be around me. He never hugs, kisses, or touches me at all. We don't talk; he is in one room while I'm in another. I always talk to him about this but he always says he don't know what's wrong. I always try to make us happy but some how he always says or does something that is a little bad, nothing real bad, but not good. He has a hard time trying to be a husband to me.


Answer: Hello, Jean. It sounds like there's a lot more going on here than meets the eye. In other words, your husband's behavior is symptomatic of a deeper problem. We can't begin to say for sure what's going on with him emotionally, because we don't know your marital history.


There are a number of possible reasons for his behavior. Here are a few: stress at work, unforgiveness in his heart, disillusioned regarding marriage, even financial problems in your marriage. The fact, that he is not willing to talk to you about it or just says he doesn't know definitely makes it difficult on your part to even try and understand.


This is what we suggest for now:

First of all, begin to really pray about your marriage regularly. Ask the Father to give you insight into your husband's heart. Pray also for your husband's salvation. You did not mention whether or not your husband is a born again believer. Finally, pray also against any bitterness or resentment forming in your heart -- continue to be the woman God created you to be.


If the two of you are not involved actively in a local church, may we suggest you get connected with a local body of believers that can support you. Download the free bible studies on our website called "What a Husband Needs" and "What a Wife Needs" and ask him if the two of you can study these lessons together each night before bed. If he agrees, great. If he doesn't, don't push him just continue praying.


Finally, we think the two of you could benefit from professional Christian help of some sort. Maybe your husband would be willing to talk with a Christian Pastor. But timing is everything, God's timing that is. So pray and ask God to prepare your husband's heart for this suggestion. When you feel in your spirit that the time is right. Ask him if he would be open to talking with a Pastor or another Christian professional about the problems you're having. Explain to him that if this is left unresolved it will continue to create a huge disconnection between the two of you, as well as an open door for the enemy.


We will be praying for you.


Peace and Blessings,
Ministers Mike and Wanda

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