Wife is thinking of separation and possibly divorce

by Jose
(Poteet, Texas, USA )

Wife is thinking of separation and possibly divorce: I have been with my wife for 15 years now hoping to be married 13 years on Jan 23. About 7 years ago I cheated on my wife with an ex coworker. She turned out to be pregnant, but ended up with a miscarriage. Wife thinks it wasn't mine. Anyways, my wife has not been able to trust me until somewhat now. My wife has never had to work. She got a job last year and met a guy and started liking him. I called the guy up and he apologize for calling her. She was very upset because of me calling him. When she told me about him, she said that our marriage wasn't working and so she started talking to that guy. So that stopped and she got a job closer to home. Then she got a job closer to home and I thought everything was back to normal. Well, she started talking to the delivery guy who happened to be married. The guy asked for her number and she gave it to him. She claimed it was business related. She left her phone one day and I went through it. She had him scheduled on her phone on when she would call him. She even set up alarms. I confronted her and all she said is he is just a friend. There is nothing wrong with having male friends. Throughout all of this, we had just started attending a Christian church and both of us accepted the Jesus into our lives. What I could never understand is why was all of this happening now and not before we got saved. So things were fine for a while until my wife opened a Facebook acct. She ran into her so called best friend who happens to be a male. She stays up messaging him back and forth til the late hours. I happened to read some of the messages that she is not in love with me, which she has told me before. She loves me but not in love with me. She claims we need a trial separation. I have a big problem with jealousy. She told me in the past that she could stand everything else but not jealousy. She spends alot of time helping her aunts and family. It makes me extremely jealous that she spends her time texting her male friend and family. Friday, I accused her if a lot of things. I really hurt her feelings. I feel insecure and jealous. Everything she does makes me jealous and I feel she is cheating on me. Today she left her phone and she was talking about waiting for the holidays to be over to see what will happen. She doesn't want to ruin the holidays for my two daughters. I am afraid of my wife leaving. I need help. I have talked to my pastor and they even have marriage class which says it is no ones business telling people from church of our problem. I don't know what to do. I'm fine some days but then that jealousy creeps up. Pray for me brothers and sisters.